Category: creating a life you love

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according to whom?

Today I want to talk about a straightforward coaching concept with two parts.

  1. Define it.
  2. According to whom?

Let’s discuss.

You want to be more CONFIDENT.

What does confidence mean?

“A feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.”

According to whom?

You; it says right there- one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.

So, you get to define confidence for yourself.

Let’s take another:

WORTHY– having adequate or great merit, character, or value.

Adequate or great merit, character, or value- according to whom?

Who gauges what adequate or great merit, character, or value is?

Who says this is adequate or great, but this is not?

Who is the authority?

[Hint: it’s you; you get to decide.]

How about one of my favorites, PERFECT, as we try to do with our beloved perfectionism?

What does perfect even mean? Let’s see.

“Having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.”

According to whom?

Who decides the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics of something (or someone)?

And even if someone does have an opinion on this, who says they are right? (Who died and made them king?)

OK, last one, ENOUGH.

Define: “as much or as many as required.”

That’s quite vague.

Enough of what?

How much is required?

And (you’ve got it now), according to whom?

It’s YOU; you get to decide for yourself.

You get to decide if you appreciate your own abilities or qualities.

You get to decide if you have adequate or great merit, character, or value.

You get to decide if something has all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; if it’s as good as it is possible to be. 

You get to decide if something has as much or as many as required. 

You even get to define what is required!

I invite you to figure this out for yourself.

Get clear. Define each of these for you.

See what you come up with.

Decide if you hit the mark or not.

Decide if it matters if you hit that mark or not,

And see what you can do differently to get there if that is indeed what you want.

Reach out for support.

Click here to take the first step & book your complimentary, no-obligation consultation.

As a reminder, for LHW employees, coaching is free! Click here to book your in-person coaching session or here for a remote coaching session.

If you’d like to learn about How to Get the Most Out of the Rest of Summer (& other applications for the scientific process in your life), join me on Wednesday, July 26, 2023, at 11 AM MT for my next free Masterclass. Registration is required; you can do so here.

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imperfections

What are some practical ways you’ve learned to embrace your imperfections?

For me, it’s important to remember that we are all human beings simply doing our best (aka. humaning).

I work on giving as much grace to myself as I do to others.

Just like I give people the benefit of the doubt and try to understand their perspective, I do the same for myself by taking a moment to reflect on why I made certain choices or acted in a certain way.

Remember, understanding doesn’t necessarily mean agreement, but it does help with self-awareness and acceptance.

Another approach to embracing imperfections is to list the three (ONLY 3) things you don’t love most about yourself and explore how each has served you.

Once you understand their value, you can decide whether to keep those aspects or commit to making changes.

If you choose to pursue change, start by defining what you want, and recognize that it’s possible with the right thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Create a well-thought-out plan and diligently implement it, focusing on actions that move you closer to your desired transformation while avoiding those that don’t.

Be prepared to mitigate negative thoughts and feelings that may arise, and be open to feeling uncomfortable along the way.

Take the time to acknowledge your progress, celebrate your achievements, and regularly evaluate your journey.

Remember, embracing imperfections is an ongoing process, so be patient with yourself and repeat these steps as needed.

If you would like support in facing your imperfections, working with a nonjudgmental coach who can provide a safe space for you is truly valuable. At Christine Seager Coaching, I specialize in this kind of transformative work. If you’re interested in receiving support, book a complimentary, no-obligation consultation right here.

As a reminder, Logan Health Whitefish Employees can book a free in person coaching session here, or a remote coaching session here, as part of your benefits package.

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taking time for you… without guilt

You feel guilty anytime you want to take time for yourself, thinking you should be doing something more productive, like mowing the lawns, reading your book, or just sitting on the front porch for a hot minute.

You worry that taking time for yourself means neglecting your responsibilities.

You feel overwhelmed by the constant pressure to keep doing.

You constantly feel as if you’re doing something wrong, even though you’re exhausted.

You’re sometimes fed up & tired of putting work & everyone else’s needs before yours.

But you continue to fill your schedule with tasks & responsibilities, leaving little downtime.

You continue to put work & everyone else’s needs before yours.

And you avoid taking breaks or resting, believing it’s unproductive or wasting time.

But rather than feeling guilty, remember:

Some downtime is essential for your well-being.

It’s OK for you to rest, take a break, go for a walk.

Taking time for yourself lets you recharge, be more productive, and be present for others.

Productivity can be about taking care of yourself and finding balance, too.

You don’t need to feel guilty or think you should be doing something else.

With this added self-compassion, you can:

Decide to block off some downtime in your schedule.

Set boundaries & communicate them to others as needed.

Prioritize yourself & your needs alongside your responsibilities.

And actually enjoy your downtime without guilt & pressure.

You’ll have less guilt, more compassion, greater well-being, and be better able to rest, relax & recharge.

You will be even more productive & effective in your work & responsibilities.

Have a better work-life balance,

And an increased overall satisfaction and fulfillment in life.

If you’d like support to take the time you deserve for yourself without worrying about being productive, prioritize self-care, recharge, and be more present while still fulfilling your responsibilities, this is exactly what I help my clients with.

Click here to book a complimentary, no-obligation consultation call.

LHW Employees can click here to book an in-person coaching call or here to book a remote coaching session as a benefit for working at Logan Health Whitefish. Isn’t that nice?!? 

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second-guessing

Do you second-guess your decisions, worried you will make the wrong choices?

You constantly doubt whether you’ve made the right choices.

You fear that any mistakes you make will negatively impact your life or the life of those around you.

You worry about the consequences of your choices & feel paralyzed by the fear of making the wrong decision.

This causes immense anxiety & stress.

You feel overwhelmed, unclear & struggle to make decisions.

You often feel regret or guilty after making decisions, believing you’ve made the wrong choice.

You struggle with analysis paralysis– overanalyzing decisions, spending excessive time weighing pros & cons & seeking reassurance from others.

You seek validation & confirmation from others to ensure you’re making the right choices, often relying heavily on others’ opinions.

Your fear of making the wrong choice leads to hesitation & delay in decision-making, potentially missing out on opportunities.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

You can embrace your uniqueness, honor your strengths & imperfections, & remember that external validation does not determine your worth.

You can create self-acceptance & fulfillment by defining your values, practicing self-compassion, & cultivating gratitude.

Trust in your journey, & see that you are enough just as you are.

This is how you get a handle on your second-guessing & worry about making the wrong decisions.

With this increased confidence, you will have

Greater decision-making abilities.

Less anxiety & stress associated with second-guessing.

An improved ability to trust your intuition & judgment.

Greater resilience & adaptability in handling the outcomes of your decisions.

Embrace personal growth & learn from experiences.

Enhanced self-awareness & understanding of your values & priorities.

You will be more empowered, create self-trust, & focus on the positive outcomes your decisions can bring.

And this is how you create & live a life you love.

Are you tired of second-guessing your decisions & living in fear of making the wrong choices?

I can help you move out of doubt & into empowered decision-making.

Click here to book a consultation call.

Logan Health Whitefish Employees can click here to schedule an in person coaching session or here to book a remote session (more availability).