I recently heard that people pleasers are liars, and at first, I was like, “What?! No!”
But after consideration, I can see how it’s true.
Let’s say your desired result is to lose weight.
Your sister visits and brings you a box of baked goods from a fantastic bakery near her.
She’s excited to share these treats with you, but you know these treats are not on your dietary plan and may hinder your progress in losing weight.
But you also don’t want to tell her no because, after all, she went through the trouble of buying and bringing them to you; she wants to make you happy, and you don’t want to make her upset.
What are your options?
If you say yes to her, you are saying no to yourself, to your goals & dreams.
And you are lying because your genuine desire is to lose weight, not to eat the treats. (I mean, let’s be real, you probably want to eat the treats AND lose weight, but that’s not how weight loss actually works.)
So, what to do?
First, decide how you want to show up to this.
Maybe you want to be kind and gracious.
Consider– what would someone loving, kind & gracious do?
They might say, “Thank you so much for this generous gift. I love you so much, and I’m touched that you thought of me. I’m sorry I didn’t share this previously, but I’m working towards losing weight. Treats like these are not on my food protocol. Would you like me to keep them for you or share them with our neighbor?”
You can be loving, kind & gracious, AND responsible for yourself, staying true to your weight loss goal.
And your sister can be responsible for herself– for her thoughts, feelings & actions, too.
This is how we create and live a life we love.
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