Are you lonely? If so, this one is for you.
First, I want you to know you are not alone in feeling lonely (no pun intended). I’m often surprised at how many people tell me they are lonely & I think if only I could get these people together, they would be less lonely.
Second, how often are you putting yourself out there? We think people will come to us, but that’s not really how it works.
How often are you saying, Hi, I’m Christine. Do you want to hang out?
Are you willing to meet for coffee?
Can we hang out on Marco Polo?
Or even– where do you hang out the most? Can I meet you there?
You have to be willing to try.
If they say no, or it doesn’t work out, move on to the next person. Keep trying.
One of my core beliefs is that there is someone for everyone.
If you haven’t found your person (or your people) yet, they are somewhere– keep looking.
What do you want your friendships to be like?
Who do you need to be to create that kind of friendship?
What do you need to believe about yourself, them, and people (in general)? Where do you think these people hang out? Go there. Talk to them; don’t just stand at the wall or bury your head in a book.
Be willing to be vulnerable in both initiating a conversation and then
in sharing vulnerable things about yourself.
The energy you put out is the energy that comes back to you, so be the kind of friend you want to have.
And then, see how it goes.
Are you enjoying your time with them?
Are they reciprocating?
Do you like who you are when you’re with them?
Does this friendship seem to have potential?
Do they challenge you; will they help you grow as a person?
There is someone for everyone.
You have to get out and meet people (even virtually, if not in person).
Your people are out there.
Keep looking; keep going, and you will find them.
If you would like help with more strategies & mindset about how not to feel lonely, I can help you. I offer complimentary, no-obligation consultation calls. Book here.
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