For my people who struggle with “not-enoughness” or lack:
I see you.
You feel like there is never enough time.
There is not enough money.
You are not enough.
You don’t do enough.
You aren’t good enough.
You aren’t taking enough care of your people, yourself, your peers, your patients.
No matter how much you give, no matter what you do, it is still not enough.
You are oh so tired of the constant battle- the worries, the stress, the decision fatigue– the what is best and where and how and why?
I have one question for you.
Is it true?
Get to the facts.
Do a time study.
Check the bank accounts.
Get feedback.
Do the research.
Often, you will find that it is not actually true. You may see the money or find the time simply doing the research.
For example, when you feel like there is not enough money- check the accounts and do the math- is it true? How much money is there; what is the exact dollar amount? How much is “enough”? Are you paying your bills every month? Do you have a roof over your head? Is your family eating? Do you have clothes to wear?
What about time? How are you spending your time? Maybe you scroll. Maybe you perseverate about worries. Maybe you spend time complaining about work when you are not at work. How’s that working for you? That’s like doing a double workday… for free. You don’t get paid for this additional time!! Stop that! What about this- how much time do you spend worrying about not enough time?
Time and time again, my clients find that what they think and believe is not really true.
When you feel like there is lack or not-enoughness, just ask yourself: is this true? And look at the facts.
