So often, we succumb to our negativity bias.
Both fortunately and unfortunately, it’s our nature to do so.
Our negativity bias has kept us safe & alive to this day and age. Without it, we likely would have died off/ become extinct long ago.
Now that we’re here (2022), we can DISCERN what we consider unsafe.
Consider: will I really die from doing this?
When you have a public talk to give- your palms are sweaty, your heart beats faster, and you maybe feel nauseous. (No? Only me?)
OK, but are you going to DIE from giving a talk? Likely no.
When you apply for a new position- you hope your old boss doesn’t hate you for leaving, you want your new boss to think you are doing a good job, and there’s fear of rejection.
Rejection FEELS uncomfortable, but you’re not actually going to die.
When you want to lose weight, you choose to watch what you eat and feel… deprived.
OK. I assume you’re still eating some food, so you’re not going to die from skipping a few cookies.
You’re saying, “But Christine, I WANT the cookie. I don’t want to feel deprived. I don’t like it.”
I’ve got you. Watch this and pay careful attention here.
How do you feel if you give in & give up & decline the public speaking opportunity?
You might feel relieved that you don’t have to feel that discomfort, but then you will be discouraged when you find that you’re not growing your business.
How do you feel if you stay put in your life-sucking job? You’ll like it for a bit because “better the devil you know,” but you will continue to feel hopeless, unsatisfied, and disgruntled in your job (and maybe your personal life, too).
How do you feel if you succumb to that urge and eat the cookie?
You might feel happy for a moment but then disappointed in yourself for not doing what you said you would do.
Do you see, BOTH are uncomfortable?
So you might as well pick the discomfort that comes with a new position & a better life. Networking opportunities that grow your business. Weight loss that has you more physically fit & healthy.
You might as well pick the discomfort that comes with the results you desire. And this is how you design and live a life you love.
