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The Other Half Is Also True: How to Find Calm, Confidence, or Joy in Healthcare (Even When It Feels Impossible)

Have you ever noticed how fast your brain jumps to worst-case scenarios?

You hear a code blue overhead, and your stomach tightens.

You’re about to walk into a shift with a tough patient assignment, and you’re already bracing.

You get a vague email from your manager that says, “Can we talk?” and your brain goes straight to “What did I do wrong?”

That internal alarm system is strong—and for good reason.

In healthcare, being alert and prepared can literally save lives.

But here’s what we don’t often hear:

Just as there’s always an opportunity for anxiousness, there’s also an equal opportunity for calm.

You might not feel calm in that moment.

You might not even believe it’s an option.

But it’s there.

The same brain that spins out with stress is also capable of grounding you.

And the same situation that brings up overwhelm could also be an invitation to find courage, clarity, or even joy.

Let’s break this down.

The Default: “What if something goes wrong?”

Healthcare trains us to expect problems.

From nursing school to the floor, we’re taught to spot what’s not normal, anticipate complications, and catch things early.

And that’s a skill you need.

But if you’re not careful, that skill can hijack your nervous system—and your day.

Without noticing, you start assuming that bad news is coming.

You live in constant readiness for the next crisis.

And you start to feel like anxiousness is just your baseline.

The Other Option: “What if this is okay?”

This is the part we’re not trained for.

What if your patient’s condition is stable?

What if that email from your manager is about something good?

What if today’s shift goes more smoothly than expected?

What if you don’t need to brace for impact, because nothing is crashing?

The brain won’t offer those thoughts automatically.

But you can practice them.

And the more you do, the more accessible they become—even on your worst days.

Emotions Come in Pairs

Here’s the truth most of us don’t realize:

Every time there’s the potential for fear, there’s also potential for courage.

Every time there’s an urge to panic, there’s an equal chance to choose peace.

And every time you feel resentment, frustration, or guilt… there’s a sliver of space to access something else—curiosity, pride, maybe even joy.

That doesn’t mean you’ll always feel the “positive” emotion right away.

It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong if anxiety still shows up.

But it does mean that the opposite emotion is always available. And you can reach for it.

A Practical Example

Let’s say you’re dreading your shift tomorrow.

You’ve already started feeling heavy. Maybe you’re thinking:

• I’m going to be exhausted.

• I won’t get a break.

• I’ll probably get floated or have a rough assignment.

All of those might be true. But here’s where the shift can start.

Ask yourself:

• What else might be true?

• What’s a more helpful thought I could practice?

Try on one of these:

• “I can handle whatever comes up tomorrow.”

• “There’s a good chance something goes right.”

• “It’s possible I’ll laugh with a coworker or feel proud of how I show up.”

Even just considering those possibilities can calm your nervous system.

This Isn’t About Toxic Positivity

Let’s be clear: I’m not telling you to slap a smile on and pretend everything’s fine.

This is about building mental flexibility.

So you’re not stuck in anxiety, dread, or guilt as your only options.

So you can notice the truth: that every hard emotion has an equal and opposite emotion standing quietly beside it, waiting to be noticed.

Try This Today

1. Notice the Negative Emotion

Name it. Don’t fight it. Just observe: “I feel anxious,” or “I feel overwhelmed.”

2. Ask What the Opposite Could Be

If you’re feeling guilt, could there be compassion?

If you’re feeling dread, could there be determination?

3. Practice a Thought That Points You There

Something simple and believable.

“This is hard, and I’m doing it anyway.”

“It’s okay to feel both nervous and capable.”

“Maybe this shift won’t suck.”

4. Repeat As Needed

Not once. Not perfectly. Just keep noticing the other half of the truth.

You don’t have to get it “right.”

You just have to stop assuming the hard stuff is the whole story.

Because for every anxious thought, there’s an equally real and available one waiting to calm your system.

And when you learn to practice both, you start living a different kind of life—even on the job.

Want to feel more confident and calm—without needing your job to change first?

That’s what we do in coaching.

Book a complimentary call to see what this work could look like for you here.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

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Why You Dread Going Back After a Vacation (and What to Do About It)

You know the feeling.

You’ve just had a few days off—maybe even a full week. You finally got to sleep in, eat something that wasn’t from a vending machine, and wear real pants without drawstrings.

But as the return-to-work countdown starts ticking, that pit in your stomach shows up.

The dread creeps in.

And you find yourself thinking: “Shouldn’t I feel better after time off?”

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and you’re definitely not broken.

The Problem: Post-Vacation Dread Is Common… but Often Misunderstood

Most healthcare workers assume the dread means something is wrong with them.

They tell themselves:

• “I’m just lazy.”

• “If I were a better nurse, I’d be excited to go back.”

• “Maybe I’m burned out again.”

But often, it’s not burnout—it’s disconnection.

Many nurses are feeling overwhelmed after time off—not because they don’t care, but because they’ve lost touch with the parts of the job that once gave them meaning.

Time off gives you a glimpse of what it feels like to be rested, free, and in charge of your own time. When you go back, you’re re-entering a system that often feels rushed, rigid, and reactive.

It’s not about not caring.

It’s about not having time or space to reconnect with why you care.

The Solution: Reconnect With What You Do Like About Your Job

If you’re trying to figure out how to stop dreading going back to work, it starts with understanding what’s really bothering you.

Instead of treating the dread like a red flag that you need to leave your job, try seeing it as a clue.

It’s pointing to something that needs a little attention—not a total overhaul.

If you want to enjoy nursing again, you don’t necessarily need a new job—you need a new way of experiencing the one you have.

The Process: 3 Steps to Shift the Post-Vacation Dread

1. Name What You’re Actually Dreading

It’s easy to lump everything together as “Ugh…work,” but getting specific helps. Ask yourself:

• Am I dreading a particular person or situation?

• Is it the schedule, the pace, or the emotional load?

• Do I feel behind or out of control?

When you name the real trigger, you can address it more clearly.

Often, it’s one part of your job—not the whole thing—that’s making you dread going back.

Recognizing the difference between healthcare burnout vs. boredom can also be huge. Sometimes, it’s not exhaustion—it’s a lack of growth, stimulation, or meaning.

2. Plan One Thing That Grounds You

Think of one simple thing that helps you feel like you at work:

• A hot cup of coffee in the break room before the shift starts.

• A minute alone in your car to set an intention.

• Playing your favorite playlist on the drive in.

These little rituals help you feel more in control of how you return to work after time off.

It’s one of the best ways to feel better returning to work—without needing a full career makeover.

3. Look for Proof You Actually Like Your Job

Start collecting “evidence” that your job still matters to you.

That you’re good at it. That it makes a difference.

Think:

• A patient who smiled and said thank you.

• A moment of teamwork with your crew.

• A time you caught something important or advocated well.

If you’re trying to reconnect with your nursing job, you have to look for the good on purpose.

You don’t have to love every moment, but it helps to notice the ones you do.

The Results: You Return Recharged and Reconnected

When you walk back in with clarity and intention, something shifts.

Instead of feeling thrown back into the chaos, you feel more grounded—because you know what matters to you.

Post-vacation dread for nurses isn’t a sign that you’re lazy or broken.

It’s a reminder to pay attention to how you’re working, not just that you’re working.

You don’t need to escape your job to enjoy it again.

You just need tools and support to shift how you experience it.

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Want help doing this consistently?

That’s what I coach nurses and healthcare workers to do every day.

If you’re ready to feel better without switching jobs, let’s talk.

Book a free consultation HERE to see how coaching can help you love where you are—and design what’s next.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

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Why You Procrastinate (and How to Stop)

Do you ever find yourself putting off tasks—especially the important ones?

You know what needs to be done.

You want to do it.

And yet… you don’t.

Instead, you scroll, reorganize your sock drawer, or decide now is the perfect time to deep-clean your fridge.

Why does this happen? And more importantly—how do you stop?

The Real Reason You Procrastinate

Most people think procrastination is about laziness or poor time management.

It’s not.

It’s about avoiding discomfort.

You procrastinate when a task feels:

• Overwhelming: “I don’t even know where to start.”

• Pointless: “This isn’t going to make a difference anyway.”

• Pressure-filled: “What if I fail?”

• Boring: “I don’t want to do this right now.”

Your brain is wired to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and conserve energy.

So instead of tackling the uncomfortable thing, your brain steers you toward quick hits of dopamine—social media, Netflix, or even ‘productive’ distractions (hello, color-coded planner).

How to Stop Procrastinating in 3 Steps

1. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Avoiding?

Instead of beating yourself up, get curious.

• Is this task overwhelming?

• Am I worried about failing?

• Am I resisting boredom or discomfort?

Identifying the real issue makes it easier to solve.

2. Make It So Small You Can’t Say No

Your brain resists big tasks. So shrink them.

• Instead of “I have to finish this whole project,” say “I’ll work on it for 5 minutes.”

• Instead of “I have to write a report,” say “I’ll write the first sentence.”

• Instead of “I should go for a 5-mile run,” say “I’ll put on my shoes.”

Tiny steps build momentum.

3. Decide Ahead of Time

Procrastination thrives on indecision.

So decide—when, where, and how long you’ll work.

• “I’ll start at 10 AM, work for 15 minutes, then take a break.”

• “I’ll check patient charts right after shift huddle, before anything else.”

Then honor that decision like it’s a patient’s medication schedule.

Final Thoughts

Procrastination isn’t a moral failing—it’s a habit.

And habits can change.

What’s one thing you’ve been putting off that you can start—right now?

If you’re struggling to follow through on your goals, I can help you. Let’s chat about what’s keeping you stuck—book a complimentary consult here.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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The Power of Support: How to Give and Receive It

Support isn’t just something we need; it’s something we all deserve. Life is too challenging and rewarding to navigate solo. The most successful people have mastered both asking for help and offering it in return. Support isn’t just a safety net—it’s a catalyst that creates courage, strengthens confidence, and fosters growth.

So, how do you build a network of encouragement that moves you forward, especially when fear and doubt threaten to hold you back? By being intentional about how you give and receive support.

How to Receive Support

Asking for help can feel uncomfortable at first, but it’s actually a gift to both parties. When you invite someone to support you, you’re allowing them to make a meaningful contribution to your life—a gift that comes full circle when you let them know how much their encouragement means.

Here’s the key: when someone supports you, they’re not doing the work for you. They’re there to remind you of your strengths, especially when you’re feeling stuck in your doubts.

They’ll challenge you—not by agreeing with excuses or allowing your self-doubt but by holding you accountable to your dreams and potential. They’ll remind you why your goals matter, even when you’re tempted to quit.

To strengthen this bolster this support, consider sharing the specific ways you hold yourself back when things get tough. For example, do you procrastinate, avoid difficult conversations, or shy away from big opportunities? Let your support person know what to look out for so they can gently call you out when needed. Their role isn’t to criticize—it’s to keep you aligned with the version of yourself you want to become.

How to Give Support

Supporting someone else is about more than cheering them on—it’s about truly seeing them for who they are and what they are capable of.

When you support someone, you’re recognizing their journey as their own unique path. You honor their courage, even when they doubt themselves. You see their desire to grow, contribute, and create a life they love.

Your role isn’t to fix their challenges or offer all the answers—it’s to remind them that they already have the wisdom and strength they need to find their way forward. Think of yourself as a trusted travel companion. You’re walking beside them, offering encouragement, insight, and perspective, while staying rooted in your own journey, too.

The Transformative Power of Connection

Support changes everything. When you allow yourself to lean on others and offer your support in return, you reach a level of ease and possibility that’s hard to achieve alone.

You don’t have to muscle through life on your own. Support is all around you—friends, family, mentors, and even colleagues can become partners in your growth. It’s as simple as asking and offering.

Consider:
Who in your life could you ask for support right now? And who might need your support in return?

Taking the time to strengthen these connections will not only propel you forward—it’ll deepen your relationships and create opportunities for growth on both sides.

Are you ready to take the next step? Let’s talk about how coaching can help you tap into the support and accountability you need to go after your biggest goals. Book a free consultation today, and let’s explore what’s possible.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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Disconnected to Reconnect: How Taking Time Away Can Recharge Your Life

Have you ever felt like the constant buzz of notifications and endless to-do lists were running your life? As healthcare professionals, being “on” all the time is second nature—answering calls, managing crises, and juggling patient care. It’s exhausting.

I felt it too. That’s why I decided to fully disconnect for two nights at a rural cabin. No Wi-Fi, no emails, no distractions. Instead, I focused on simple joys—playing games, reading, skiing, and relaxing on the couch.

It was exactly what I needed.

Why Disconnecting Matters

For healthcare workers (or an entrepreneur like myself), being “on” 24/7 can feel unavoidable. Even on days off, the mental load doesn’t go away. Constant connection—to work, family, and even social media—can drain your energy, leaving little room for you.

When you disconnect, you allow your mind and body to rest. It’s in the quiet that you can process, reflect, and recalibrate. And stepping away from the noise often reminds you of what really matters: your well-being and sense of purpose.

What I Gained From Two Days Away

At the cabin, I gave myself permission to simply be. Without the constant pull of notifications or emails, I reconnected with myself—and with Scott (and Max, I guess– lol).

It felt strange at first, like I should be “doing” something productive. But the longer I stayed disconnected, the more I noticed how much lighter I felt. My thoughts became clearer, and my energy lifted.

When I came back, I felt refreshed and ready to take on life and work with a renewed sense of clarity.

How You Can Disconnect—Even If It’s Just for a Day

You don’t need a rural cabin to experience the benefits of unplugging. Here are a few simple ways to create your own moment of disconnection:

  • Plan a No-Tech Day: Turn off your devices, set your phone to “Do Not Disturb,” and let people know you’re unavailable.
  • Spend Time Outdoors: Go for a XC ski, take a walk, or enjoy a park—leave your phone behind or in airplane mode.
  • Create a Mini Retreat: Dedicate a few hours or a day to reading, meditating, or relaxing at home.
  • Set Boundaries for Work: Avoid checking emails or work messages on your days off.

Your Next Step

What’s one way you could unplug this week? Maybe it’s leaving your phone in another room, taking a walk after a shift, or planning a short getaway.

Disconnecting is just one way to embrace the slower pace of winter. For some, it might mean finding more rest, and for others, it could be about discovering small joys in the season’s quiet moments.

If you’re ready to explore what “wintering well” could look like for you, join me for my Wintering Well Workshop on January 28. Together, we’ll discover personalized ways to embrace the season, recharge, and make the most of winter’s quiet moments—whether that’s disconnecting, slowing down, or something else entirely.

This winter can be a season of renewal. Let’s find what works best for you.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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Permission to Dream: What If This Is the Year You Go After It?

Have you ever had a dream that felt completely out of reach? One of those “impractical” or “too big” goals you pushed aside because life got in the way, or because the steps to get there seemed impossible?

I know exactly what that feels like.

I remember standing outside the ER doors, staring at the hustle and movement on the other side, and wanting so desperately to be a part of it. At the time, I was a nurse working in Med/Surg, but the ER was a more skilled nursing position, and I wanted in. I was someone who dreamed of being one but didn’t know if it was possible. The fear of failure, the logistics, the “what if I can’t do it?” thoughts—they all felt bigger than the dream itself.

But the thing about dreams is that they don’t go away. They sit quietly in the background, waiting for you to notice them again. And when you do, they’re there, asking: What if this time is different?

The Year to Revisit Your Dreams

What if 2025 is the year you finally go after it? That dream you set aside—whether it’s going back to school, starting a side hustle, transitioning to a new role, or creating and living a life you love—what if you decided it was possible?

One thing I’ve learned from my own journey and from coaching others is that possibility starts with a thought. You don’t have to believe 100% that it will happen right away. You just need to practice the thought: Maybe it’s possible.

When I started to shift my thinking, I found proof that I could do hard things. I looked back at other times in my life when I achieved something that once felt impossible—like becoming a nurse in the first place. I realized that the same determination and small, consistent actions that worked before could work again. And they did.

Directing Your Brain Toward Possibility

Your brain loves to focus on what feels safe, predictable, and comfortable. That’s its job—to keep you alive. But achieving your dreams requires you to redirect your brain toward possibility. It’s like gently nudging it out of its default mode and asking it to consider something new.

Here’s how you can start:

  1. Practice the Thought: Each time your brain says, “This is too hard” or “I can’t do this,” counter it with, “I’ve overcome challenges before—I can handle this.” Over time, this practice builds self-trust and opens the door to possibility.
  2. Find Proof from Your Past: Think of a time when you accomplished something that felt impossible. Maybe it was finishing nursing school, raising a family while working, or navigating a tough situation at work. What strengths did you use? What steps worked for you then?
  3. Borrow Strategies That Worked: Look at what helped you succeed before. Did you break the goal into smaller steps? Did you rely on support from others? Use those same strategies to start moving toward your dream now.
  4. Take One Small Step: You don’t need a perfectly detailed plan to begin. Start with one small, manageable action that moves you closer. Every step builds momentum.

You Are Closer Than You Think

Dreams don’t require perfection; they require persistence.

One of my clients, a nurse who dreamed of becoming a nurse educator, felt stuck for years thinking it was too late. With a few mindset shifts and small, consistent steps, she not only achieved her dream but discovered a newfound passion and influence in her career. Whether it’s becoming a nurse, finding a new career path, or designing a life that feels extraordinary, the key is to start. Just start.

When I finally stepped through those ER doors, everything changed. That one decision to believe it was possible led me to where I am today—not just as a nurse but as someone who helps others achieve their own extraordinary lives.

Ready to Go After It?

If you’re ready to stop setting your dreams aside and start creating a life you love, I can help you turn those dreams into actionable goals and make them your reality. Logan Health Whitefish employees have coaching included in their benefits package—this is your opportunity to take advantage of personalized support to how nurses achieve their goals and turn their dreams into reality.

I’d love to hear from you—what’s one dream you’re ready to revisit this year? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

This is your year. What if you decided to go after it?

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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How to Create the Holiday Experience You Actually Want

What if you could decide RIGHT NOW how you want to feel this holiday season?

Not how you think you should feel or how you’ve always felt in the past—but exactly how YOU want to feel.

For healthcare workers, the holidays can feel like a blur. Long shifts, missed family gatherings, and the weight of taking care of everyone else can leave you feeling drained before you’ve even started. Add in the pressure to make everything perfect at home, and it’s no wonder the holiday spirit feels out of reach.

But here’s the truth: those holiday feelings we’re chasing—whether it’s joy, connection, or calm—don’t just happen by chance. We create them.

That means you have the power to create the exact holiday experience you want this year—even if you’re juggling shifts or navigating a packed schedule. Here’s how:

Step 1: Decide How You Want to Feel

Take a moment to think about the feeling you want to create this holiday season. Forget about the to-do list or the expectations. Close your eyes and imagine:

✨ Do you want to feel calm and cozy?
✨ Excited and joyful?
✨ Connected and full of love?

It might help to picture yourself at the end of the holiday season. How do you want to look back and feel about the time you spent? Be specific. Choosing the feeling you want is the first step to making it happen.

Step 2: Focus on What Creates That Feeling

Now that you know how you want to feel, it’s time to take action. The key here is to focus on what creates that feeling for YOU—not what Instagram says or what your family expects.

Here are some examples:

  • Calm and Cozy: Slow things down when you’re off the clock. Say no to commitments that feel more like obligations. Light a candle, grab your favorite blanket, and watch that holiday movie you love. Let it be simple.
  • Excited and Joyful: Crank up the holiday music and dance around your kitchen after a long shift. Plan something fun just for YOU—like a morning walk to see holiday lights or a drive-through coffee treat before work. Joy often comes from the little things we let ourselves enjoy.
  • Connected and Full of Love: Reach out to people who matter to you in small but meaningful ways. Write a quick note to someone you haven’t spoken to in a while or plan a video call with loved ones if you’re working during the holidays. It’s about small, intentional moments.

The magic happens when you intentionally align your actions with the feeling you want to create.

Step 3: Shift Your Focus When You Get Off Track

Even with the best intentions, the holidays can throw curveballs. A patient crisis, family drama, or your own perfectionism might try to derail your good vibes.

This is where your focus becomes your superpower. Instead of spiraling into frustration, gently ask yourself: “What can I focus on right now to create [insert your feeling]?”

For example:

  • If a coworker’s attitude frustrates you during your shift, refocus on gratitude for the opportunity to make a difference in someone’s life.
  • If family drama threatens your peace, remind yourself of the joy you can create in the small moments—like sharing a laugh with your kids or savoring a quiet cup of tea.
  • If the holiday chaos feels overwhelming, ask, “What’s one thing I can do right now to feel calm?”

Redirecting your focus is like resetting the holiday playlist in your mind. You can’t control everything, but you CAN control where your attention goes.

Step 4: Give Yourself Permission to Enjoy

So often, we hold ourselves back from enjoying the holidays because we feel like we haven’t done enough. Maybe you didn’t bake those cookies from scratch or finish every gift perfectly wrapped. But the holidays aren’t a test.

Give yourself permission to soak up the moments that matter. Let go of what doesn’t. 

Remember, you’re not chasing perfection—you’re choosing presence.

For nurses and healthcare workers, this might mean embracing unconventional celebrations. Maybe your family’s holiday dinner is takeout on your lunch break—and that’s okay. Joy doesn’t come from the details; it comes from the intention.

What Will Your Holiday Feel Like?

This holiday season doesn’t have to be like every other year. You don’t have to wait for the perfect circumstances to feel the way you want to feel.

You can decide, right now, what you want to feel—and create that feeling on demand. By focusing on what matters, choosing intentional actions, and giving yourself permission to enjoy, you can design a holiday that feels like magic.

So, what feeling do YOU want to create this holiday season?

Let’s Make It Happen

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, let’s talk. Coaching can help you figure out exactly how to create the holiday experience you’ve been dreaming of—without the stress or overwhelm.

Book a complimentary consultation today, and let’s design the life you love, one intentional step at a time.

Don’t let another holiday pass you by. Let’s create something extraordinary together—starting now.

As part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. 

Book a Logan Health Employee Coaching Session Here

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me.

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Accepting Feedback

Have you ever walked away from feedback—no matter how “constructive” it was—feeling like you got punched in the gut?

You’re not alone.

Negative feedback has a way of getting under our skin. We take it personally.
We spiral.
We make it mean so much more than it needs to.

We tell ourselves:
“I’m so dumb.”
“I’ll never be successful.”
“This isn’t working.”
“They don’t get me.”

And while the words themselves might sting, we’re the ones beating ourselves up in the aftermath.

But what if you could hear feedback—even the tough stuff—and handle it with grace?
No spiraling. No shame. No making it mean you’re somehow not good enough.

Here’s how:

Step 1: Stop & Take a Beat. Then Respond.

You don’t need to react immediately. Give yourself a moment.

Choose a simple phrase (or two) to have in your back pocket:

  • “Thank you. I’ll take that under consideration.”
  • “I see what you’re saying. I’ll think about that for next time.”
  • “OK, thank you.”

That’s it.
You can respond respectfully without over-explaining, defending, or making it awkward.

Example:
Your manager says:
“I think your documentation could be more thorough.”

Instead of panicking or apologizing, you calmly say:
“Thanks for the feedback. I’ll keep that in mind.”

That’s all you need in the moment. You can process it later.

Step 2: Process It—When You’re Ready

When you have some time to think, ask yourself:

  • Is there any truth here?
  • Can I see their perspective, even if I don’t fully agree?
  • Do I want to make any changes based on this feedback?
  • Is there something to learn here?

Sometimes feedback shines a light on a skill or area you want to improve.

Example:
Feedback: “You didn’t seem prepared for that patient handoff.”

Your first reaction might be frustration.
But when you step back, you might realize:

  • Were you as prepared as you wanted to be?
  • What can you learn to feel more confident next time?

Maybe it’s creating a checklist or practicing a quick summary for each patient.
Turning feedback into a learning opportunity puts you back in control.

Learning changes frustration into growth.

Step 3: Break It Down

Here’s where you separate what’s real from what’s drama in your mind.

  1. What are the facts?
    (What exactly was said? What specifically happened?)
  2. What are your emotions about those facts?
    (Upset, ashamed, annoyed, embarrassed?)
  3. What thoughts are causing those emotions?
    (What are you making this mean about you?)

Example:
Feedback: “That IV placement took too long.”

  • Fact: It took a half hour.
  • Emotion: Frustrated, embarrassed.
  • Thought: “I’m so bad at this. I’ll never get better.”

Step 4: Challenge the Thought

Is that thought true?
How could the opposite be true?

Find evidence to support it.

Example:
Thought: “I’m terrible at placing IVs.”

Ask:

  • Is it really true? (No. Most of the time, I place them quickly and effectively.)
  • Could the opposite be true? (I’m learning. Everyone has off days. I’ve done this well many times before.)

Final Thoughts: Feedback Doesn’t Define You

Feedback is data. It’s information—not a judgment of your worth.

When you stop taking it personally and start handling it with grace, you stay in control.

  • You decide what’s worth keeping.
  • You decide what to improve.
  • You decide what to let go.

And here’s the magic: Feedback can actually help you grow when you allow it.

Are you ready to start handling feedback differently?
If you’re tired of spiraling every time someone shares a critique, let’s talk.
Book a complimentary consultation, and we’ll work on tools to help you feel confident, calm, and in control—no matter what’s said.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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Why Reinvent the Wheel When What You’ve Got Works Just Fine?

Stop Fixing What Isn’t Broken

How many times have you thought, This time it’ll be different?

You bought the fancy planner. You started that new workout routine. You even downloaded the latest app everyone’s talking about.

But here you are, weeks (or days) later, feeling like you’re right back where you started.

Sound familiar?

Here’s the thing: Your brain is wired to crave novelty. 

Neuroscience tells us that when you try something new, your brain lights up with a fresh hit of dopamine. It feels good in the moment. But novelty doesn’t equal better—and it doesn’t mean it’s solving your actual problem.

So why do we keep chasing it?

Examples:

  1. Calendars and Planners
    How many planners have you abandoned mid-year? Or mid-week? You start with one, then grab another because, let’s be honest, you’re convinced this one will finally make you organized.

Spoiler alert: It’s not the planner.

  1. Workouts
    You finally found a workout routine you like—or at least one that doesn’t make you miserable. But then you see someone on Instagram doing burpees on a Bosu ball, and suddenly you think, Should I be doing that?

Here’s an idea: Stick with what you’re already doing. Because the thing that works is the thing you’ll actually do.

The Real Question: Why Are You Switching?

Next time, before you jump to something new, stop and ask yourself:

  • What’s actually working for me right now?
  • Why do I feel the need to change?
  • Am I chasing the excitement of starting over?
  • Or am I avoiding something uncomfortable?

Spoiler alert: It’s usually the uncomfortable part.

Here’s the truth: The magic isn’t in finding something new. The magic is in staying consistent with what already works, even when it feels boring or hard.

When you stop chasing shiny new solutions and stick with what already works, a few amazing things happen:

  • You save yourself a ton of time (no more Googling “best planners for 2025”).
  • You actually get results because you’re consistent.
  • You feel more in control—because you’re no longer scrambling for answers.

And here’s the best part: You start to trust yourself again.

That’s what I help my clients with—figuring out what’s actually working, why they keep chasing new things, and how to make progress without reinventing the wheel every week.

You can save yourself time, energy, and frustration—and coaching with me can help you get there faster.

Are you ready to stop spinning your wheels and start building momentum?

Book a complimentary consultation with me today. We’ll talk about where you’re stuck, what’s already working, and how coaching can help you finally move forward.

Or, join me for my LAST free masterclass of 2024, How to Abstain, on 12/11/24 at 11 am via Zoom. It’s all about cutting through clutter and creating a life that works for you.

Let’s get you results. You don’t have to do this alone.

As part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. 

Book a LOGAN HEALTH EMPLOYEE Life Coaching Session Here

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me.

Book a COMPLIMENTARY CONSULTATION Here

The LAST Free Monthly Masterclass for 2024 is on December 11, How to Abstain from over eating, over drinking, over scrolling, etc. Registration is required and you can do so here:

HOW TO ABSTAIN Masterclass

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life.

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One Sentence

When I heard Gretchen Rubin’s term “midlife malaise,” it hit me like a ton of bricks—that was me. I had been lost in my own life, just drifting along, not fully engaged in living. I was constantly wondering, Is this it? Is this all there is to life?

I knew something was missing, but I had no idea how to figure out what it was.
I knew something was off, but I didn’t know how to make it right.
I wanted to be happier, to enjoy my life, to be a better wife and stepmom, but how?

Then one day, I stumbled across a quote in Real Simple magazine. It said, “What’s the goal of your life? For me, it’s to make the people I love happy and have a good time with them.”

And I thought, That’s it. That’s what I want—to live with joy, with purpose, to actually feel alive in my own life. But then that question crept back in: how?

Maybe some people are just born knowing how to live that way.
Maybe I wasn’t wired for it.
Maybe I’d missed my chance.

If this sounds familiar, let me tell you: one sentence can change your life.

For me, that sentence was: “I know exactly what to do here.”

That simple phrase helped me break free from the endless cycle of “but how?” and start believing I already had the answers. Every time I repeated it, my brain shifted from feeling stuck to offering solutions. Suddenly, ideas came to me—small actions I could take to move forward. And each time I took action, I created proof that, yes, I did know how.

Instead of feeling frustrated, hopeless, and lost, I began creating real, meaningful change in my life.

That one sentence transformed everything. It helped me stop seeking and start creating the life I’d been longing for.

So, if you’re ready to stop searching and start creating an extraordinary life, let me help you. You can get through the hard things, and you can feel fully present and engaged in your life.

Life’s too short to spend it just getting by. It’s time to start creating the extraordinary life you deserve—and I can show you how.

Are you ready to find your one sentence?

As part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Book a LOGAN HEALTH EMPLOYEE Life Coaching Session Here

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

Book a COMPLIMENTARY CONSULTATION Here

The LAST Free Monthly Masterclass f 2024 is on December 11, How to Abstain from over eating, over drinking, over scrolling, etc. You can see more info & register here. I hope to see you there!

HOW TO ABSTAIN MASTERCLASS

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action.