Category: mindset

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one goal

Establish one specific, measurable, and timely goal.

Notice I don’t say achievable because I want you to go big.

Having a goal you think is impossible is okay if you don’t beat yourself up on your way to achieving it.

And if you go bigger than you think is possible, you’re less likely to hold yourself back and more likely to achieve more.

Focus on that one goal.

What are the actions you need to take? Again, be very specific. Write all the steps and as many micro-steps as possible, then make them chronological.

Now you have a clear starting point, and you can get going.

As you begin to act, your brain will offer negative thoughts and feelings.

The next step is to allow these negative feelings.

How?

Notice that they are there. Determine where in your body. Describe them in detail (color, shape, weight, movement, waveform, etc.). Remind yourself that you have thus not died from feeling a negative emotion.

Then decide how you would rather feel about the action you are taking. Reminder: feelings are one-word vibrations in your body.

What thoughts, when you think them, create that feeling for you?

If this is hard, please know that it’s a practice. And let’s find evidence for how you want to feel.

Think of another time you feel the way you want to.

What thoughts create that feeling for you?

Borrow from there and apply those thoughts here.

Practice those thoughts over and over.

Keep taking action and thinking those thoughts.

Evaluate your results.

Correct course when needed.

Wash, rinse, repeat.

When your first goal becomes a habit, when it’s easy to do, start working on your next goal.

If you feel overwhelmed and want to learn how to practice constraint, I can help. I offer complimentary, no-obligation consultation calls here. LHW Employee IN PERSON Coaching Sessions are here, and remote sessions are here.

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taking time for you… without guilt

You feel guilty anytime you want to take time for yourself, thinking you should be doing something more productive, like mowing the lawns, reading your book, or just sitting on the front porch for a hot minute.

You worry that taking time for yourself means neglecting your responsibilities.

You feel overwhelmed by the constant pressure to keep doing.

You constantly feel as if you’re doing something wrong, even though you’re exhausted.

You’re sometimes fed up & tired of putting work & everyone else’s needs before yours.

But you continue to fill your schedule with tasks & responsibilities, leaving little downtime.

You continue to put work & everyone else’s needs before yours.

And you avoid taking breaks or resting, believing it’s unproductive or wasting time.

But rather than feeling guilty, remember:

Some downtime is essential for your well-being.

It’s OK for you to rest, take a break, go for a walk.

Taking time for yourself lets you recharge, be more productive, and be present for others.

Productivity can be about taking care of yourself and finding balance, too.

You don’t need to feel guilty or think you should be doing something else.

With this added self-compassion, you can:

Decide to block off some downtime in your schedule.

Set boundaries & communicate them to others as needed.

Prioritize yourself & your needs alongside your responsibilities.

And actually enjoy your downtime without guilt & pressure.

You’ll have less guilt, more compassion, greater well-being, and be better able to rest, relax & recharge.

You will be even more productive & effective in your work & responsibilities.

Have a better work-life balance,

And an increased overall satisfaction and fulfillment in life.

If you’d like support to take the time you deserve for yourself without worrying about being productive, prioritize self-care, recharge, and be more present while still fulfilling your responsibilities, this is exactly what I help my clients with.

Click here to book a complimentary, no-obligation consultation call.

LHW Employees can click here to book an in-person coaching call or here to book a remote coaching session as a benefit for working at Logan Health Whitefish. Isn’t that nice?!?