A few very unofficial but important coaching terms that you might have heard if you’ve coached with me. I’m sharing here for the others to learn, but while we’re here- if you HAVEN’T coached with me, what are you waiting for?! It’s time! Make an appointment: chrisitneseager.com/book.
The RUB. If you know me, you might know I do not love the sound of styrofoam rubbing together. Max loves it b/c he knows that’s the sound of leftovers getting in his bowl, but I do not.
The Rub is the experience of incoherence- when our actions produce outcomes that are disconnected, inconsistent, or discordant with our values. You likely feel the experience of styrofoam rubbing together before you can articulate the words to describe it, or even before you can determine why you feel that way. Noticing The Rub is the first step; it’s a signal to pay attention, to look more closely at what’s going on, specifically, what actions you’re taking that are not in alignment with your values.
The Warm-Fuzzies are the opposite of The Rub. It’s when something feels fantastic- you might want to snuggle down and stay there for a while. When your actions and your outcomes are in alignment, it feels warm & fuzzy. This is where you experience harmony, meaning, satisfaction, and fulfillment; it’s a nice place to be.
You might be thinking- yes, but what about when “things” come up. How can I be/ stay/ get into a warm-fuzzy place?
Simply by being willing to demonstrate your Life’s Intentions.
There can be hardships and difficulties around you. Nevertheless, you are willing to demonstrate being a loving family member, being a contributor to your community, being spiritually developing, or being a well-respected professional.
The way to get to The Warm-Fuzzies is to look at those difficulties through the lens of your Life’s Intentions, and then clear next steps will become evident.
