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“Let’s just see what we can do here.”

This is one of my new favorite thoughts.

My brain automatically goes to a place of feeling empowered, like “challenge accepted,”

And it gets to work thinking of more ideas & what I CAN do here.

For example, what if you get a flat tire & you’re not 100% sure you know how to or will physically be able to change the tire?

Instead of thinking- I don’t know how to do this,

You could think- let’s just see what I can do here.

What about volunteering (or maybe being voluntold) for a project at work?

Are you going to say no or ask for instructions & then––

“Let’s see what we can do here.”

How soon can you pay off your mortgage?

How much money can you save for retirement?

When can you go on your dream vacation?

“Well, let’s just see what we can do here.”

It helps show your brain some possibilities.

It allows your brain to get to work figuring it out.

It’s amazing how creative, resilient, and intelligent our brains are when we see them off in the right direction.

So tell me, what result would you love to create in life?

And what can you do to get there?

If you would like help to see what you can do here….

If you would like help to map out clear steps to get there…

If you would like an accountability partner to hold you to your action steps,

I can help you.

Book a complimentary, no-obligation consultation here.

One call can change it all!

OR sign up for the next CSC Masterclass & come check me out.

I’m teaching about Should Thinking.

Logan Health Whitefish Employees can sign up for in-person coaching here.

Or remote coaching (via phone or Zoom & more availability) here.

And this is me learning what I can do here- sharing my tools, knowledge & skills with you all.

You wish things were different than how they are. 

You wish your spouse would offer to take the kids to sports on Saturday morning after you’ve been with them all week. 

You wish your kids would pick up their socks off the couch (they’re multiplying like bunnies; there are now five socks). 

You wish there weren’t so many changes at work. 

You wish Sally would stop complaining about Jane & just do her work. 

You wish you didn’t have to deal with personnel’s personal issues. 

If everyone would just do what they are supposed to do, things would be so much better! 

There’s good news & bad news here. 

The bad news is they have free will and can do whatever they want. 

The good news is you have free will and can do whatever you want, too… 

The first step is to be aware that you’re “shoulding” all over the other people. 

When you wish things were different from how they are, you’re arguing with reality. 

The socks are already there, Sally continues complaining, and your husband hasn’t offered to take the kids. 

Just because this is what’s happening doesn’t mean YOU can’t be any different. 

You can have peace despite the complaining. 

You can feel respected despite the socks on the couch. 

You can be happy even though your husband is not offering to take the kids. 

Cool, right? 

You don’t know how to do this yet. 

But it’s pretty simple and doable. 

I’ll show you exactly how in the Shoulding Masterclass. 

When: Tuesday, September 26 at 11 AM MT 

How: via Zoom. Register here. Tell your friends. 

You can have more peace, be happier, and be more content, and I can’t wait to show you how. 

What is your definition of envy? 

What if envy is just an indication someone else has something that you want, too, like a signpost? 

You can just notice it– oh, isn’t that interesting? I feel envious of her. She must have something that I want. What is it that she has that I want, too?

What is that signpost pointing to? 

You can also look to see where that envy stems from. 

Why do you feel envy?

Where might you be lacking or feeling inadequate? 

And is it true? 

Try to remove the personal aspect, or at least don’t use it against yourself. 

What did they do to get it? 

Where can you take what they did & apply it to you? 

Use it to see possibility– if they have/did it, you can have/do it, too. 

You don’t have to be upset or feel bad for how you feel– all feelings are welcome– but you get to decide what you want to DO about it. 

I suggest you take a look, get curious & see how you can break it down, and get some of that for you, too. 

Are you feeling envious lately? 

I can help you embrace envy as a signpost pointing to your desires, discover what you truly want, explore where the envy stems from, and use it as an opportunity for personal growth. 

Let’s break it down together and find ways to create & live a life you love.

The first step is to book a consultation by clicking here.

Logan Health Whitefish employees can book in-person coaching here.

Or a remote coaching session (more availability) here.

Next FREE Masterclass: Should Thinking
Tuesday, September 26 at 11 AM MT

Do you have thoughts like these? She shouldn’t be here if she’s sick. He should be more careful. I shouldn’t be further along by now. It shouldn’t be this hard for me. The insurance should cover this. The line shouldn’t be so long. This shouldn’t cost so much. 

On Tuesday, September 26th, 2023, at 11 AM MT, I’m sharing the most common shoulds I’ve struggled with, where my clients often apply this work, and how you can eliminate shoulds from your thought process so you can feel better and live a life you love.

Registration is required. You can do so here

How much time, energy & effort are you spending complaining about a situation rather than coming up with solutions? 

You complain that Sally at work keeps coming into your office to chat rather than discussing an appropriate time to interrupt you. 

You vent about your spouse to your girlfriends rather than having an open and candid conversation with your spouse. 

You complain about the recent hike in property taxes, how little everyone is paid, and the gas price rather than finding creative ways to budget, save, or create additional income. 

You complain about your GI bloat, your back pain, or your fingernail sensitivity rather than taking steps to consult professionals, research treatment options, or adopt healthy habits. 

You complain about time without implementing strategies like practicing constraint, delegating, or setting boundaries to optimize productivity. 

You lament about incomplete tasks or missed deadlines without developing effective time management techniques or seeing accountability. 

You complain about stagnant growth or feeling stuck without seeking opportunities for growth, learning, or change. 

You grumble about environmental problems like pollution, waste, or climate change without participating in advocacy, sustainable practices, or community initiatives. 

You engage in griping about your family rather than exploring effective communication strategies or seeing routes to improve relationships. 

You consistently express discontentment with aspects of life, like your career, hobbies, or living situation, without actively exploring alternative paths, pursuing passions, or seeking guidance. 

Just imagine what could be different for you in life if you took all the time, energy & effort you applied to complaining, lamenting, griping, and being discontent and instead focused on seeking solutions. 

What more could be possible for you? 

Solutions > Complains

This is how you create & live a life you love. 

If you want to learn how to create and live a life you love, book a complimentary, no-obligation consultation here.

LHW Employees can book a remote session here.

Or an in-person coaching session, here.

“This is hard.”

You think finding a good work/life balance is hard.

Being a mom or stepmom is hard. 

Being authentically you is hard. 

Your job is hard. 

Having downtime/ enjoying your time off is hard. 

When you think things are hard, they indeed are. 

Let’s take a hard work/life balance. 

You struggle with boundaries leading to overworking. 

You don’t sleep well, exercise, or have fun (fun- what’s that?) 

Worried about the quality of work, you don’t delegate. 

You don’t want to disappoint others, so you over-commit.

You have a hard time disconnecting from work, constantly checking emails so you can “keep an eye on things.” 

You feel guilt & shame because you can’t figure out how to have a good work/life balance. Your increased frustration & irritability takes a toll on your relationship with friends & family. 

All of this causes even more stress, dissatisfaction, and imbalance in your life. 

Instead, think, “This is easy.” And simply ask (& answer for) yourself, “How could I make this easier?” 

See what comes up. Perhaps you will see that you can 

Set & hold boundaries. 

Prioritize sleep, exercise & fun. 

Delegate to others & monitor progress to ensure good quality work. 

Say no, limiting your commitments. 

Take email access off your phone, letting work be on work time only.

Separating work & life helps you have better relationships and enjoy your time with loved ones, leading to more fulfillment, less stress & greater well-being. 

The next time you think something is hard, ask yourself, “How could I make this easier?” 

This is how you create & live a life you love. 

If you would like support to make things easier, I can help you. The first step is to book a consultation to discuss what you’d like & I’ll share exactly how I can help you. Click here to book a LHW in-person coaching session or here for a LHW remote coaching session.

Do you find yourself putting off tough conversations with employees? 

You think: I should have that conversation, but I’ll do it later. 

I don’t want to do it now; it will be awkward. 

I know it’s part of my job, but I wish it didn’t have to be me. 

You continue to procrastinate & avoid it. 

You feel increasingly worried and anxious.

You begin to avoid that person, walking the long way to the cafeteria so you have less chance of running into them. 

Instead, try this: 

What is the emotion you would feel if you had the conversation? 

Uncomfortable because you have to have this difficult conversation in the first place. 

Frustrated, especially if you’ve had this conversation before. 

Disappointed that they haven’t met your expectations. 

Worried that you, as their boss, are not doing a good job. 

Resentment that their actions might be inconveniencing your team or your facility.

Figure out what emotion would be there for you by finishing this sentence, 

“If I had this conversation with them, I would feel ___.” 

THEN, see that you won’t die from that feeling.

Be willing to feel that emotion. 

It’s OK to feel frustrated, disappointed, worried, or resentful. 

Those emotions won’t kill you. 

And you can also have a calm, curious, professional conversation with someone about their actions or performance. 

The conversation will become easier when you’re willing to face the emotions you are avoiding.