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For all leaders (or those aspiring to be), it’s not uncommon to feel overwhelmed by fears, doubts, and worries, especially when “performing” in front of others. You may want to appear confident and assured but are concerned that your true feelings may be exposed.

To tackle this problem, you need to decide how you want to present yourself as a leader, whether in a meeting, to your staff, or in any other role. Embrace your emotions and lead from that place. By being open and confident, you can make a significant difference in how you approach your role as a leader.

If you lead from a place of vulnerability and authenticity, you will show your team that it’s okay to make mistakes and that it’s natural to be human. This can create a sense of safety and trust within your team, leading to greater collaboration, innovation, and success. It’s essential to remember that you don’t have to have all the answers as a leader, and it’s okay to ask for help or admit when you don’t know something.

At the same time, when you lead from a place of confidence, you show your team that you believe in yourself and them. You set the tone for your team’s culture and create an environment that fosters growth and development. When you lead with vulnerability and confidence, you make a well-rounded approach to help your team thrive.

By following this advice, leaders can transform their approach and create a positive culture within their team. When you lead from a place of vulnerability and confidence, you can create a safe, valued, and supported atmosphere for everyone. This can lead to greater engagement, productivity, and satisfaction for both you as a leader and your team members.

As a leader, it’s essential to acknowledge your fears, doubts, and worries, but leading from a place of vulnerability and confidence is equally important. Determine how you want to show up in your role, the next meeting, or for your staff, and embrace that. By leading with authenticity and confidence, you can create a positive culture that fosters growth and success for everyone involved.

What dream, goal, or desire do you have in your heart right now? 

The one that you’re afraid to admit you even want out loud because that’s how terrified you are of it. 

What is it? 

State it. 

Breathe life into it. 

Know that it is safe and OK to want something more. 

Know that you are safe and OK to want more. 

Know that it’s safe & OK to admit your heart’s desire. 

The first step to achieving any goal is to know what you are working towards. 

Step toward with wild abandon. 

Be willing to be uncomfortable. 

This is where most of us get hung up and stop. 

It will not be comfortable, AND also you will be OK. 

If it were easy, everyone would be doing it. 

But while we know logically that it will be challenging, this doesn’t make it easier for us to withstand the discomfort.

Start small. 

Take one step at a time. 

(Any step because there is no one right step- who could even tell beforehand what that would be anyway? You don’t know the ‘right’ step until you’ve taken several steps & found which ones were ‘right.’)

Be willing to be wrong. 

Try different things. 

Evaluate your results. 

Keep going. 

You will inevitably arrive at your dream, goal, or desire.

No one is going to decide for you.

So, you might as well learn how to decide for yourself now, and the sooner, the better.

You can poll all your friends.

Ask your spouse.

Confer with your mentor.

But they can’t decide for you.

They aren’t you.

Even with your best intentions at heart, they won’t experience the outcome of your decisions the same way.

Tough love truth: it comes down to you.

So, what do you want?

Which decision feels more like FEAR, and which feels more like LOVE?

What route helps you feel expansive, rejuvenated, or euphoric?

And if you can’t get to that–

Which feels thrilling & terrifying?

I know that when I’m thrilled and terrified, I’m in the exact right place—despite being uncomfortable.

Often, the best decision is not comfortable.

But comfortable equals boring, too.

Similar to: it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all; it’s better to be thrilled and terrified than not be thrilled and terrified at all.

Here’s the thing: the sooner you make a decision, the sooner you can implement it, and the sooner you can make that decision be the best decision.

You will NOT die.

You WILL learn.

If you want to learn a process for how to make empowered decisions, join me this Wednesday, April 17, at 6 PM MT for the next (FREE) CSC Masterclass. You can register right here:

https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_zVWZVyepSVGGsndkPFd-dQ

Alex Hormozi said, “If you want to see who has the most control over your life… just look at who you blame.”

Ouch.

So much truth in this.

It’s so much easier to put the blame elsewhere,

Rather than face the cold, hard truth–

(And I say this with all the love in the world)

That it’s you.

You are to blame.

So often, we think our fate lies in the hands of others.

We give all of that power away.

But it’s you.

You have the control.

The power lies with you.

You have the ability to make a change.

And every moment that you are not changing….

Is a moment that you are choosing the exact same results.

Staying small.

Staying safe.

Not taking any risks.

Not learning.

Not growing.

Not taking any action.

Not creating any data from which to learn.

This surely is the harder path.

The one where you see that it’s on you.

But it’s the path that creates results.

Radical ownership is when you see that– 

It lies with you.

Your life.

Your business.

Your relationships.

Your happiness.

The only question that remains is:

Are you willing to do what it takes?

And the only way you will know is by trying.

You take action.

Have data.

Analyze the data.

See if you’ve created the results you want.

If not, you try something else.

Then

Wash.

Rinse.

Repeat.

If you want to see who has the most control over your life,

Look no further than yourself.

If you’d like to learn more about radical ownership to have the power & control to create the results you want in life, I can help you.

Do you take your dreams seriously?

Or do you half-ass any steps you take toward them?

You think about applying for your master’s, but talk yourself out of it.

You dream about working abroad but don’t think it’s possible, so you don’t pursue it.

You really, really want to go on that big trip, but it seems like such a pipe dream that you discount it before you even consider how it could be feasible.

I invite you to dream again.

But this time, take your dreams seriously.

Learn to level up.

Show up for yourself.

Commit to work towards what you want.

Your dreams certainly will not become reality if you don’t think they are possible, but I assure you they are.

Start breaking down how they could become a reality and get to work.

Living a life you love will be worth every step you take to get there.

If you want help breaking down how to achieve your dreams, I can help you. I support my clients in having, doing, being, or achieving anything they want. Let me help you create the life of your dreams. Book a consult here.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health Whitefish, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book an in-person coaching session here or a remote/Zoom coaching session here. Let me help you create the life of your dreams.

One of the most profound things I learned through my journalling allowed me to put down so much fear & anxiety; it absolutely freed me.

I never worried about that situation again. Ever.

I’m an avid journaler.

Through writing, I’ve learned a lot.

And I believe we can empower ourselves and gain clarity by answering our own questions.

So, what’s one question that’s been bothering you?

How much time, energy & effort do you spend thinking about it?

You may have a decision to make, some confusion to clear up, or a problem to work out.

I challenge you today to answer it for yourself.

Write it out.

Get all of your thoughts out, all of your questions, and answer them one by one.

If you’re not used to writing, just try it–

See what comes up for you.

And I’ll share a few pro tips:

Create a safe space for yourself. This is just an experiment to see what you can work out on your own.

Try not to judge yourself. No one says you must follow through with anything; you can decide that later. For now, just write it out.

If you’re worried that someone will find it– tear it up & throw it away as soon as you’re done writing.

If more questions come up, answer those questions, too.

If you’re worried it will take too long, set a time for as much as you want to spend on it. When the timer goes off, you can decide if you want to keep writing or not.

Journaling has had a profound impact on my life.

The ability to get my thoughts out on paper, where I can look at them objectively and then decide what (if anything) to do about them.

Seriously, it’s priceless.

Are you a journaler? What has been your experience?

If this is your first time, how did it go?

If this is interesting to you & you’d like to learn more, I am an open-book—

Ask away or reach out.

I’m happy to share.

Discomfort vs. your phone: your phone will win every time.

Are you someone who often and randomly finds your phone in your hand?

Scrolling is often a form of avoidance.

But if you want to create and live a life you love, just consider– 

Is this how you WANT to spend your time?

If not, first, look at what you might be avoiding.

You can do this by asking yourself: 

What would I be doing if I wasn’t on my phone right now? 

And what emotion would I be feeling? 

For example: 

Maybe no one invited you to hang out, and you feel lonely.

Maybe you have work to do but don’t know what to do next & feel stupid.

Maybe you haven’t called your mom in a while, so you feel bad.

Figuring out the thought you are thinking, the thought that’s just BEFORE you pick up your phone to scroll, the one that has you scrolling instead of doing something uncomfortable, empowers you to make conscious & intentional decisions.

Is this how you want to live your life?

If not, break down that thought and decide to take action anyway.

You can invite people to hang out.

At work, give your best guess as to what to do next & do it, or determine how you can figure it out. 

As soon as you think to call your mom, call her– right now!

Not all mindless scrolling is bad, but I want you to be aware of how you spend your time and make sure it’s aligned with what is truly most important to you. 

You only have so much time here on this earth. 

How do you WANT to spend it?

This is how you create & live a life you love.

If you want support to spend less time on your phone or screens, I can help.

There are a few ways you can work with me, but the first step is to book a

• complimentary, no-obligation consultation here.

Last thing: get in early and register for the next free monthly Christine Seager Coaching Masterclass on How to Create More Fun by registering here.