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How to Start Designing a Life You Actually Love

(This is by far, one of my favorite coaching topics because when we’re so busy with just living life, we don’t think this is actually possible for us, but I assure it you it is.)

Have you ever felt like you’re just going through the motions?

You wake up, go to work, check off tasks, and before you know it—it’s bedtime, and you’re doing it all over again tomorrow.

Rinse and repeat.

Maybe you tell yourself, “This is just how life is.”
Or maybe you’ve thought, “One day, I’ll figure out what I really want.”
You just keep kicking the can down the road.

But what if “one day” never comes?

What if the life you actually want doesn’t just happen—but has to be designed?

Why Most People Don’t Design Their Life

If you feel stuck, you’re not alone.

Most people don’t intentionally design their life because:
1. They don’t know what they want. (It feels easier to stay busy than to stop and figure it out.)
2. They think they have to make huge changes. (“I’d have to quit my job, move across the country, and start over.”)
3. They don’t believe it’s possible. (“People like me don’t get to have extraordinary lives.”)

Here’s the truth:
You don’t need to know everything. You don’t need to overhaul your whole life. You just need to start.

How to Start Designing Your Life in 3 Steps

  1. Ask Yourself: What Would Make My Life Extraordinary?

Not “what’s realistic?”
Not “what’s practical?”
Not “what should I want?”

But what do I actually want?

Would you travel more? Work fewer hours? Take up a hobby that’s just for fun?

Give yourself permission to dream.

  1. Look for Small Ways to Bring That Into Your Life Now

You don’t need to quit your job and move to Bali to feel more alive.

If you dream of:
• More freedom: Can you start setting better boundaries at work?
• More adventure: Can you say yes to something spontaneous this week?
• More joy: Can you carve out time for something that lights you up?

Big changes start with small shifts.

  1. Decide to Be the Person Who Does It

Your life isn’t going to design itself.

You have to decide to take action—even if it’s small.
• Book the weekend trip.
• Sign up for the class.
• Say no to the shift that drains you.

The more you act like the person who has the life you want, the faster you become that person.

You don’t have to settle for a life that feels “fine.”
You’re allowed to want more.

The real question is: Are you ready to start designing it?

If you’re done waiting for “one day” and ready to start creating a life you love, I can help. Let’s talk— I offer complimentary, no-obligation consultations. You can book yours here.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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Why You Procrastinate (and How to Stop)

Do you ever find yourself putting off tasks—especially the important ones?

You know what needs to be done.

You want to do it.

And yet… you don’t.

Instead, you scroll, reorganize your sock drawer, or decide now is the perfect time to deep-clean your fridge.

Why does this happen? And more importantly—how do you stop?

The Real Reason You Procrastinate

Most people think procrastination is about laziness or poor time management.

It’s not.

It’s about avoiding discomfort.

You procrastinate when a task feels:

• Overwhelming: “I don’t even know where to start.”

• Pointless: “This isn’t going to make a difference anyway.”

• Pressure-filled: “What if I fail?”

• Boring: “I don’t want to do this right now.”

Your brain is wired to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and conserve energy.

So instead of tackling the uncomfortable thing, your brain steers you toward quick hits of dopamine—social media, Netflix, or even ‘productive’ distractions (hello, color-coded planner).

How to Stop Procrastinating in 3 Steps

1. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Avoiding?

Instead of beating yourself up, get curious.

• Is this task overwhelming?

• Am I worried about failing?

• Am I resisting boredom or discomfort?

Identifying the real issue makes it easier to solve.

2. Make It So Small You Can’t Say No

Your brain resists big tasks. So shrink them.

• Instead of “I have to finish this whole project,” say “I’ll work on it for 5 minutes.”

• Instead of “I have to write a report,” say “I’ll write the first sentence.”

• Instead of “I should go for a 5-mile run,” say “I’ll put on my shoes.”

Tiny steps build momentum.

3. Decide Ahead of Time

Procrastination thrives on indecision.

So decide—when, where, and how long you’ll work.

• “I’ll start at 10 AM, work for 15 minutes, then take a break.”

• “I’ll check patient charts right after shift huddle, before anything else.”

Then honor that decision like it’s a patient’s medication schedule.

Final Thoughts

Procrastination isn’t a moral failing—it’s a habit.

And habits can change.

What’s one thing you’ve been putting off that you can start—right now?

If you’re struggling to follow through on your goals, I can help you. Let’s chat about what’s keeping you stuck—book a complimentary consult here.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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Doomscrolling: Why You Keep Doing It (And How to Stop)

Have you ever picked up your phone for “just a minute”… and lost 30?

You tell yourself you’ll only check your phone for a second.

Maybe it’s between patients, during a quick break, or while you’re unwinding after a long shift. But before you know it, you’ve scrolled through three news stories, a dozen social media posts, and a random article about a celebrity’s latest Grammy drama.

And somehow, instead of feeling better, you feel even more drained.

Sound familiar?

Why We Doomscroll (Even When We Know Better)

Doomscrolling isn’t just a bad habit—it’s how our brains respond to stress, exhaustion, and mental overload.

  • You’re looking for a quick break – After hours of high-pressure decision-making, your brain craves easy distractions.
  • You’re trying to decompress – A tough patient, a difficult conversation, or pure exhaustion can leave you reaching for mindless scrolling as a way to “shut off.”
  • It’s just there – Your phone is usually within reach, making it the easiest, fastest way to fill time in your day.

But here’s the thing: doomscrolling isn’t actually restful. It’s numbing. And numbing isn’t the same as recharging.

How to Stop Doomscrolling (Even When You’re Tired)

The good news? You don’t need superhuman willpower to break the cycle. Small, practical changes make a big difference.

1. Set a Hard Stop

Decide in advance when you’ll put your phone down. Try setting a timer for five minutes and then switching to something else when it goes off. (Yes, even if you’re mid-scroll.) Pro tip: the more your brain realizes you do what you say you will do, the easier it becomes.

2. Replace the Habit

Your brain needs an alternative. If you usually grab your phone as a default, try something else that actually helps you unwind—listening to music, stretching, closing your eyes for a minute, or even doodling.

3. Move Away from the Scroll Zone

Make doomscrolling less automatic. Put your phone in another room, tuck it in your bag, or flip it over so you don’t see notifications calling to you.

4. Ask Yourself: “What Am I Looking For?”

Most of the time, doomscrolling is a way to avoid something—boredom, stress, or an uncomfortable emotion. If you can name what you’re avoiding, you can decide if that avoidance actually serves you—or if it’s keeping you stuck.

5. Create a No-Scroll Zone

Choose one time of day to be completely phone-free. Maybe it’s while eating, winding down before bed, or during your shift breaks. Protect that space.

Try This Today

The next time you catch yourself reaching for your phone, pause and ask: What am I looking for?

If it’s boredom, stress relief, or distraction, try choosing something that actually helps you recharge.

Because when you stop doomscrolling, you gain back more than just time.

You feel more present in your own life.
You create space for things that actually restore you.
You end your day feeling more refreshed instead of drained.

And that is how you start creating and living a life you love—one small choice at a time.

If breaking this habit feels easier said than done, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Coaching can help you take back your time, energy, and focus—so you can build the life you actually want.

Logan Health Employees: As part of your benefits, you get free coaching sessions. You can book yours here.

Not a Logan Health employee? Let’s talk. Book a complimentary consultation here and start creating a life you love.

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The Power of Support: How to Give and Receive It

Support isn’t just something we need; it’s something we all deserve. Life is too challenging and rewarding to navigate solo. The most successful people have mastered both asking for help and offering it in return. Support isn’t just a safety net—it’s a catalyst that creates courage, strengthens confidence, and fosters growth.

So, how do you build a network of encouragement that moves you forward, especially when fear and doubt threaten to hold you back? By being intentional about how you give and receive support.

How to Receive Support

Asking for help can feel uncomfortable at first, but it’s actually a gift to both parties. When you invite someone to support you, you’re allowing them to make a meaningful contribution to your life—a gift that comes full circle when you let them know how much their encouragement means.

Here’s the key: when someone supports you, they’re not doing the work for you. They’re there to remind you of your strengths, especially when you’re feeling stuck in your doubts.

They’ll challenge you—not by agreeing with excuses or allowing your self-doubt but by holding you accountable to your dreams and potential. They’ll remind you why your goals matter, even when you’re tempted to quit.

To strengthen this bolster this support, consider sharing the specific ways you hold yourself back when things get tough. For example, do you procrastinate, avoid difficult conversations, or shy away from big opportunities? Let your support person know what to look out for so they can gently call you out when needed. Their role isn’t to criticize—it’s to keep you aligned with the version of yourself you want to become.

How to Give Support

Supporting someone else is about more than cheering them on—it’s about truly seeing them for who they are and what they are capable of.

When you support someone, you’re recognizing their journey as their own unique path. You honor their courage, even when they doubt themselves. You see their desire to grow, contribute, and create a life they love.

Your role isn’t to fix their challenges or offer all the answers—it’s to remind them that they already have the wisdom and strength they need to find their way forward. Think of yourself as a trusted travel companion. You’re walking beside them, offering encouragement, insight, and perspective, while staying rooted in your own journey, too.

The Transformative Power of Connection

Support changes everything. When you allow yourself to lean on others and offer your support in return, you reach a level of ease and possibility that’s hard to achieve alone.

You don’t have to muscle through life on your own. Support is all around you—friends, family, mentors, and even colleagues can become partners in your growth. It’s as simple as asking and offering.

Consider:
Who in your life could you ask for support right now? And who might need your support in return?

Taking the time to strengthen these connections will not only propel you forward—it’ll deepen your relationships and create opportunities for growth on both sides.

Are you ready to take the next step? Let’s talk about how coaching can help you tap into the support and accountability you need to go after your biggest goals. Book a free consultation today, and let’s explore what’s possible.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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Disconnected to Reconnect: How Taking Time Away Can Recharge Your Life

Have you ever felt like the constant buzz of notifications and endless to-do lists were running your life? As healthcare professionals, being “on” all the time is second nature—answering calls, managing crises, and juggling patient care. It’s exhausting.

I felt it too. That’s why I decided to fully disconnect for two nights at a rural cabin. No Wi-Fi, no emails, no distractions. Instead, I focused on simple joys—playing games, reading, skiing, and relaxing on the couch.

It was exactly what I needed.

Why Disconnecting Matters

For healthcare workers (or an entrepreneur like myself), being “on” 24/7 can feel unavoidable. Even on days off, the mental load doesn’t go away. Constant connection—to work, family, and even social media—can drain your energy, leaving little room for you.

When you disconnect, you allow your mind and body to rest. It’s in the quiet that you can process, reflect, and recalibrate. And stepping away from the noise often reminds you of what really matters: your well-being and sense of purpose.

What I Gained From Two Days Away

At the cabin, I gave myself permission to simply be. Without the constant pull of notifications or emails, I reconnected with myself—and with Scott (and Max, I guess– lol).

It felt strange at first, like I should be “doing” something productive. But the longer I stayed disconnected, the more I noticed how much lighter I felt. My thoughts became clearer, and my energy lifted.

When I came back, I felt refreshed and ready to take on life and work with a renewed sense of clarity.

How You Can Disconnect—Even If It’s Just for a Day

You don’t need a rural cabin to experience the benefits of unplugging. Here are a few simple ways to create your own moment of disconnection:

  • Plan a No-Tech Day: Turn off your devices, set your phone to “Do Not Disturb,” and let people know you’re unavailable.
  • Spend Time Outdoors: Go for a XC ski, take a walk, or enjoy a park—leave your phone behind or in airplane mode.
  • Create a Mini Retreat: Dedicate a few hours or a day to reading, meditating, or relaxing at home.
  • Set Boundaries for Work: Avoid checking emails or work messages on your days off.

Your Next Step

What’s one way you could unplug this week? Maybe it’s leaving your phone in another room, taking a walk after a shift, or planning a short getaway.

Disconnecting is just one way to embrace the slower pace of winter. For some, it might mean finding more rest, and for others, it could be about discovering small joys in the season’s quiet moments.

If you’re ready to explore what “wintering well” could look like for you, join me for my Wintering Well Workshop on January 28. Together, we’ll discover personalized ways to embrace the season, recharge, and make the most of winter’s quiet moments—whether that’s disconnecting, slowing down, or something else entirely.

This winter can be a season of renewal. Let’s find what works best for you.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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Wintering Well: A Guide to Finding Warmth in the Cold

Winter is here, and if you’re anything like me, the shorter days and colder nights can feel heavy. It’s easy to find ourselves in a cycle of counting down until spring, waiting for the “hard” season to pass.

But what if winter didn’t have to be a season we merely endure? What if it could become a time to rest, reset, and even grow?

That’s the heart of Wintering Well — not fighting the season but learning to work with it.

The Pull to Hibernate

When winter comes, so often our instincts tell us to slow down, stay inside, and do less. And sometimes, that’s exactly what we need! But there’s a difference between resting to recharge and shutting down completely.

Have you ever found yourself:

  • Feeling stuck in a rut but unsure how to pull yourself out?
  • Battling guilt for not being as “productive” as you think you should be?
  • Feeling overwhelmed, even though your calendar says you should have more time?

You’re not alone. Winter seems to amplify these feelings for so many of us.

Reframing the Season

Instead of seeing winter as something to survive, we can choose to view it as an opportunity. A time to pause, reflect, and take care of the parts of ourselves that often get overlooked in busier seasons.

Wintering Well doesn’t mean pretending the challenges of the season don’t exist. It means finding new ways to meet those challenges. It means asking yourself:

  • What do I actually need this season?
  • Where can I give myself more grace and flexibility?
  • How can I use this time to prepare for what I want next?

It’s about designing a season of intentionality rather than defaulting to survival mode.

What You Can Do Right Now

If you’re ready to start Wintering Well today, here are two simple steps to get you started:

  1. Create a Daily Check-In: Take five minutes each morning to ask yourself, “What do I need today?” Whether it’s rest, connection, or a small win, setting this intention can help you navigate your day with purpose.
  2. Plan for Joy: Add one thing to your calendar this week that you genuinely look forward to. It could be a cozy evening with a book, a walk in the snow, or a phone call with a friend. Joy doesn’t have to be grandiose — it just has to be something you do.

A Taste of Wintering Well

Imagine:

  • Waking up on a frosty morning and feeling calm rather than rushed.
  • Having time set aside for reflection and planning, even in the thick of life.
  • Finding joy in the quiet moments and building habits that support your bigger dreams.

This is what Wintering Well is all about — giving yourself permission to create space for what truly matters, without feeling like you’re falling behind.

Ready to Dive Deeper?

If this resonates, I’d love to invite you to my Wintering Well workshop. It’s designed to help you:

  • Understand how winter impacts your mindset and energy.
  • Learn practical tools to create a season that works for you.
  • Set yourself up for success not just this winter, but all year long.

Because winter isn’t just a season to get through — it’s a chance to grow, rest, and reconnect with what matters most.

Join the Wintering Well Workshop Here and let’s make this winter one you look back on with gratitude, not exhaustion.

Can’t wait to see you there!

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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Permission to Dream: What If This Is the Year You Go After It?

Have you ever had a dream that felt completely out of reach? One of those “impractical” or “too big” goals you pushed aside because life got in the way, or because the steps to get there seemed impossible?

I know exactly what that feels like.

I remember standing outside the ER doors, staring at the hustle and movement on the other side, and wanting so desperately to be a part of it. At the time, I was a nurse working in Med/Surg, but the ER was a more skilled nursing position, and I wanted in. I was someone who dreamed of being one but didn’t know if it was possible. The fear of failure, the logistics, the “what if I can’t do it?” thoughts—they all felt bigger than the dream itself.

But the thing about dreams is that they don’t go away. They sit quietly in the background, waiting for you to notice them again. And when you do, they’re there, asking: What if this time is different?

The Year to Revisit Your Dreams

What if 2025 is the year you finally go after it? That dream you set aside—whether it’s going back to school, starting a side hustle, transitioning to a new role, or creating and living a life you love—what if you decided it was possible?

One thing I’ve learned from my own journey and from coaching others is that possibility starts with a thought. You don’t have to believe 100% that it will happen right away. You just need to practice the thought: Maybe it’s possible.

When I started to shift my thinking, I found proof that I could do hard things. I looked back at other times in my life when I achieved something that once felt impossible—like becoming a nurse in the first place. I realized that the same determination and small, consistent actions that worked before could work again. And they did.

Directing Your Brain Toward Possibility

Your brain loves to focus on what feels safe, predictable, and comfortable. That’s its job—to keep you alive. But achieving your dreams requires you to redirect your brain toward possibility. It’s like gently nudging it out of its default mode and asking it to consider something new.

Here’s how you can start:

  1. Practice the Thought: Each time your brain says, “This is too hard” or “I can’t do this,” counter it with, “I’ve overcome challenges before—I can handle this.” Over time, this practice builds self-trust and opens the door to possibility.
  2. Find Proof from Your Past: Think of a time when you accomplished something that felt impossible. Maybe it was finishing nursing school, raising a family while working, or navigating a tough situation at work. What strengths did you use? What steps worked for you then?
  3. Borrow Strategies That Worked: Look at what helped you succeed before. Did you break the goal into smaller steps? Did you rely on support from others? Use those same strategies to start moving toward your dream now.
  4. Take One Small Step: You don’t need a perfectly detailed plan to begin. Start with one small, manageable action that moves you closer. Every step builds momentum.

You Are Closer Than You Think

Dreams don’t require perfection; they require persistence.

One of my clients, a nurse who dreamed of becoming a nurse educator, felt stuck for years thinking it was too late. With a few mindset shifts and small, consistent steps, she not only achieved her dream but discovered a newfound passion and influence in her career. Whether it’s becoming a nurse, finding a new career path, or designing a life that feels extraordinary, the key is to start. Just start.

When I finally stepped through those ER doors, everything changed. That one decision to believe it was possible led me to where I am today—not just as a nurse but as someone who helps others achieve their own extraordinary lives.

Ready to Go After It?

If you’re ready to stop setting your dreams aside and start creating a life you love, I can help you turn those dreams into actionable goals and make them your reality. Logan Health Whitefish employees have coaching included in their benefits package—this is your opportunity to take advantage of personalized support to how nurses achieve their goals and turn their dreams into reality.

I’d love to hear from you—what’s one dream you’re ready to revisit this year? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

This is your year. What if you decided to go after it?

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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The Last Day of 2024: Setting the Stage for an Extraordinary 2025

It’s the last day of 2024.

And before the ball drops, I want you to take a moment to celebrate something.

Maybe it’s something big—like a career milestone, a relationship you strengthened, or a goal you crushed.

Or maybe it’s the quiet, everyday wins—like showing up on a hard day, finding joy in unexpected moments, or simply making it through when things felt tough.

Because no matter what this year looked like, you’ve made it. And that’s worth celebrating.

Now, let’s talk about what’s ahead.

What Do You Want More of in 2025?

The beauty of a new year is the blank slate it offers.

It’s a chance to pause, reflect, and dream about what’s possible.

So ask yourself:

  • What do I want more of in my life?
  • What would make me excited to get out of bed each morning?
  • How do I want to feel at the end of next year?

Maybe it’s more time for the people you love.
More confidence in the choices you’re making.
More excitement, energy, and joy in your everyday life.

The best part? You don’t have to have it all figured out right now.

You just have to decide you’re ready to take the first step.

Designing Your Extraordinary Life

Creating an extraordinary life doesn’t mean changing everything overnight.

It’s about small, intentional shifts that lead to big results.

  • Learning how to manage your thoughts so they work for you, not against you.
  • Building habits that align with the person you want to become.
  • And giving yourself permission to dream about what’s possible—and go after it.

This time next year, you could look back on 2025 as the year everything started to change.

Not because you were lucky or the stars aligned—but because you decided you were worth investing in.

Ready to Make It Happen?

I’d love to help you make 2025 your most extraordinary year yet.

Book a complimentary consultation, and let’s create a plan to get you there.

We’ll talk about what’s possible for your life, the steps to take, and how you can feel better and happier—without waiting for “someday.”

Let’s start this next chapter with excitement, confidence, and a plan.

Here’s to 2025 and everything it holds for you!

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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How to Create the Holiday Experience You Actually Want

What if you could decide RIGHT NOW how you want to feel this holiday season?

Not how you think you should feel or how you’ve always felt in the past—but exactly how YOU want to feel.

For healthcare workers, the holidays can feel like a blur. Long shifts, missed family gatherings, and the weight of taking care of everyone else can leave you feeling drained before you’ve even started. Add in the pressure to make everything perfect at home, and it’s no wonder the holiday spirit feels out of reach.

But here’s the truth: those holiday feelings we’re chasing—whether it’s joy, connection, or calm—don’t just happen by chance. We create them.

That means you have the power to create the exact holiday experience you want this year—even if you’re juggling shifts or navigating a packed schedule. Here’s how:

Step 1: Decide How You Want to Feel

Take a moment to think about the feeling you want to create this holiday season. Forget about the to-do list or the expectations. Close your eyes and imagine:

✨ Do you want to feel calm and cozy?
✨ Excited and joyful?
✨ Connected and full of love?

It might help to picture yourself at the end of the holiday season. How do you want to look back and feel about the time you spent? Be specific. Choosing the feeling you want is the first step to making it happen.

Step 2: Focus on What Creates That Feeling

Now that you know how you want to feel, it’s time to take action. The key here is to focus on what creates that feeling for YOU—not what Instagram says or what your family expects.

Here are some examples:

  • Calm and Cozy: Slow things down when you’re off the clock. Say no to commitments that feel more like obligations. Light a candle, grab your favorite blanket, and watch that holiday movie you love. Let it be simple.
  • Excited and Joyful: Crank up the holiday music and dance around your kitchen after a long shift. Plan something fun just for YOU—like a morning walk to see holiday lights or a drive-through coffee treat before work. Joy often comes from the little things we let ourselves enjoy.
  • Connected and Full of Love: Reach out to people who matter to you in small but meaningful ways. Write a quick note to someone you haven’t spoken to in a while or plan a video call with loved ones if you’re working during the holidays. It’s about small, intentional moments.

The magic happens when you intentionally align your actions with the feeling you want to create.

Step 3: Shift Your Focus When You Get Off Track

Even with the best intentions, the holidays can throw curveballs. A patient crisis, family drama, or your own perfectionism might try to derail your good vibes.

This is where your focus becomes your superpower. Instead of spiraling into frustration, gently ask yourself: “What can I focus on right now to create [insert your feeling]?”

For example:

  • If a coworker’s attitude frustrates you during your shift, refocus on gratitude for the opportunity to make a difference in someone’s life.
  • If family drama threatens your peace, remind yourself of the joy you can create in the small moments—like sharing a laugh with your kids or savoring a quiet cup of tea.
  • If the holiday chaos feels overwhelming, ask, “What’s one thing I can do right now to feel calm?”

Redirecting your focus is like resetting the holiday playlist in your mind. You can’t control everything, but you CAN control where your attention goes.

Step 4: Give Yourself Permission to Enjoy

So often, we hold ourselves back from enjoying the holidays because we feel like we haven’t done enough. Maybe you didn’t bake those cookies from scratch or finish every gift perfectly wrapped. But the holidays aren’t a test.

Give yourself permission to soak up the moments that matter. Let go of what doesn’t. 

Remember, you’re not chasing perfection—you’re choosing presence.

For nurses and healthcare workers, this might mean embracing unconventional celebrations. Maybe your family’s holiday dinner is takeout on your lunch break—and that’s okay. Joy doesn’t come from the details; it comes from the intention.

What Will Your Holiday Feel Like?

This holiday season doesn’t have to be like every other year. You don’t have to wait for the perfect circumstances to feel the way you want to feel.

You can decide, right now, what you want to feel—and create that feeling on demand. By focusing on what matters, choosing intentional actions, and giving yourself permission to enjoy, you can design a holiday that feels like magic.

So, what feeling do YOU want to create this holiday season?

Let’s Make It Happen

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, let’s talk. Coaching can help you figure out exactly how to create the holiday experience you’ve been dreaming of—without the stress or overwhelm.

Book a complimentary consultation today, and let’s design the life you love, one intentional step at a time.

Don’t let another holiday pass you by. Let’s create something extraordinary together—starting now.

As part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. 

Book a Logan Health Employee Coaching Session Here

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me.

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Accepting Feedback

Have you ever walked away from feedback—no matter how “constructive” it was—feeling like you got punched in the gut?

You’re not alone.

Negative feedback has a way of getting under our skin. We take it personally.
We spiral.
We make it mean so much more than it needs to.

We tell ourselves:
“I’m so dumb.”
“I’ll never be successful.”
“This isn’t working.”
“They don’t get me.”

And while the words themselves might sting, we’re the ones beating ourselves up in the aftermath.

But what if you could hear feedback—even the tough stuff—and handle it with grace?
No spiraling. No shame. No making it mean you’re somehow not good enough.

Here’s how:

Step 1: Stop & Take a Beat. Then Respond.

You don’t need to react immediately. Give yourself a moment.

Choose a simple phrase (or two) to have in your back pocket:

  • “Thank you. I’ll take that under consideration.”
  • “I see what you’re saying. I’ll think about that for next time.”
  • “OK, thank you.”

That’s it.
You can respond respectfully without over-explaining, defending, or making it awkward.

Example:
Your manager says:
“I think your documentation could be more thorough.”

Instead of panicking or apologizing, you calmly say:
“Thanks for the feedback. I’ll keep that in mind.”

That’s all you need in the moment. You can process it later.

Step 2: Process It—When You’re Ready

When you have some time to think, ask yourself:

  • Is there any truth here?
  • Can I see their perspective, even if I don’t fully agree?
  • Do I want to make any changes based on this feedback?
  • Is there something to learn here?

Sometimes feedback shines a light on a skill or area you want to improve.

Example:
Feedback: “You didn’t seem prepared for that patient handoff.”

Your first reaction might be frustration.
But when you step back, you might realize:

  • Were you as prepared as you wanted to be?
  • What can you learn to feel more confident next time?

Maybe it’s creating a checklist or practicing a quick summary for each patient.
Turning feedback into a learning opportunity puts you back in control.

Learning changes frustration into growth.

Step 3: Break It Down

Here’s where you separate what’s real from what’s drama in your mind.

  1. What are the facts?
    (What exactly was said? What specifically happened?)
  2. What are your emotions about those facts?
    (Upset, ashamed, annoyed, embarrassed?)
  3. What thoughts are causing those emotions?
    (What are you making this mean about you?)

Example:
Feedback: “That IV placement took too long.”

  • Fact: It took a half hour.
  • Emotion: Frustrated, embarrassed.
  • Thought: “I’m so bad at this. I’ll never get better.”

Step 4: Challenge the Thought

Is that thought true?
How could the opposite be true?

Find evidence to support it.

Example:
Thought: “I’m terrible at placing IVs.”

Ask:

  • Is it really true? (No. Most of the time, I place them quickly and effectively.)
  • Could the opposite be true? (I’m learning. Everyone has off days. I’ve done this well many times before.)

Final Thoughts: Feedback Doesn’t Define You

Feedback is data. It’s information—not a judgment of your worth.

When you stop taking it personally and start handling it with grace, you stay in control.

  • You decide what’s worth keeping.
  • You decide what to improve.
  • You decide what to let go.

And here’s the magic: Feedback can actually help you grow when you allow it.

Are you ready to start handling feedback differently?
If you’re tired of spiraling every time someone shares a critique, let’s talk.
Book a complimentary consultation, and we’ll work on tools to help you feel confident, calm, and in control—no matter what’s said.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

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