Or do you believe that you are who you are and it is what it is?
Often, when you’re up to something new or different, you will inevitably get uncomfortable. Then, you will have the urge to repeat or reinforce who you ARE instead of who you WANT to be.
It may sound like this:
- I’m always late.
- I’m not a good nurse.
- I’m just a procrastinator; I do things best at the last minute.
- I can never remember anything.
- I’m always exhausted.
What if instead of, “This is just who I am…”
There is simply some discomfort that you can learn to sit with instead.
Remember, your brain’s job is to keep you the same.
It doesn’t want to change, grow, or do different things.
It likes same-same.
So when you try to adopt a new belief about yourself, to do or create something new, your brain will urge you to reinforce your current ways.
It will hold you back from taking enough consistent and tangible action to create a different result.
Instead, have awareness.
Notice when you’re reinforcing your old beliefs.
Notice how often you tell yourself: I can’t do that; I don’t know how. I’m not a good nurse; she is better. I’m never on time. I’m just forgetful, etc.
With that new awareness, you will see what you’re doing, and you can question if it’s true.
Are you really never, ever a good writer at all? Never?
Are you never, ever on time, or can you get to work on time; you’re just perpetually late to dinner with friends?
Do you really always forget things, or do you only forget things that seem inconsequential?
Can you figure out how to do something you’ve never done before? And if so, where might one start?
Be honest with yourself and your brain. 99.999% of the things it tells you are not true.
Once you dispel these myths it’s offering you, you can start to build the belief that you are, indeed, able to change.
And you can resist the urge to reinforce the belief that you can’t.
Simply choose not to repeat those beliefs to yourself.
Since you’re on time for work, you can be on time.
Since you remember your child’s birthday, you can remember things.
Since you can put together furniture, you can figure things out.
Just because she is a good nurse doesn’t mean you aren’t a good nurse, too.
Find more and more evidence for how this is true.
Then, repeat these new beliefs- the beliefs of someone who you WANT to be.
In time, you will become the person you want to be and look back, astonished that you’re no longer that person over there; you’ve become this person over here– the person you want to be.
If this interests you and you would like to learn more about how to change your self-concept- the perception you have about yourself and who you are, join me via Zoom on Wednesday, July 17th at 11 AM MT for the next FREE monthly masterclass. Registration is required, and you can do so by clicking here.
As a reminder, as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health Whitefish, you are entitled to fully confidential coaching at no cost to you. (Yes, it’s free for you). You can book an in-person coaching session here or a remote/Zoom coaching session here. If you have any questions, just email me at Christine@christineseager.com.