what would it be like to speak your truth

Do you speak your truth? 
Do you even know what your truth is? 
What would it be like to speak your truth? 

In two-thousand 18, I came across a post that said, “Do the Universe a favor and don’t hide your magic.” I took a screenshot and then cried because I had no idea what my magic was. 

Somehow, somewhere I had lost myself. 

Two-thousand 19 was a year of pain and then recovery—the pain of hitting rock bottom and the recovery of learning about and stepping toward finding myself. 
Two-thousand 20 was a year of practice and implementing what I had learned (in addition to pandemic, quarantine, etc.) 
Two-thousand 21 will be a year of kicking-ass. 

I know how to ground myself and tap into what I want or need. 
I know I have my own answers (see the previous post). 
I know it’s OK not always to be graceful or have it look easy- it’s not; it will be messy. 
I know how to make and keep promises to myself. 
I know how to show up for myself. 
I know how to work through the hard stuff. 
I know how to trust myself. 
I know I have my own back. 
I know I will not die from this process (even when it’s scary and my brain is sure I am actually going to die). 
I know how to be brave and courageous and loving and compassionate, and I know that I want to live an extraordinary life. 
I know how to take action. 
I know that I can get it done. 
I’m (still) learning how to have more fun and not take myself (or anything) so seriously. 

Want to come along for the ride? 
Hold my La Croix, watch this. 

If you want support tapping in, grounding yourself, learning how to be you, especially if you’ve lost yourself along the way (life, marriage, family, job, do you even know where you’ve lost yourself?) 
Reach out for a consult. 
I can help you. 
I’ve done it for myself and others. 
LIFE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE SO EFFING HARD.
Let’s find you AND have fun in the process.

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what would it be like to trust yourself

Do you believe you have your own answers? 
Do you know when to lean in and when to check out? 
What is right, what is best, what is the thing to do (or not do)? 
How do we know? 

Do you feel open and spacious and excited, like you want to lean in- even if it’s potentially hard and scary? 

Do you feel tight and tense and a gut-sense of doom, like you want to lean back? 

When I’m up to something really, REALLY good, I describe it as feeling THRILLED and TERRIFIED simultaneously. 

This is where the magic happens for me, and since I am not a thrill-seeker, I pay attention when I am here. 

I believe we all have our own answers. It’s just a matter of listening to the call. I also think sometimes the calls don’t call- they just whisper. Still, if you feel thrilled and terrified, pay attention here. 

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what would it be like to love your marriage

Do you love your marriage? 
When you read this, you might think- 
“Yes, of course,” or 
“Mmmm, maybe… not so much… I don’t know.” 

Either way that is OK, and please know you are not alone.

If you are in the latter group, I want you to really hear this: 
It is OK, 
you are not alone, 
AND you can change your marriage. 

Yes, you- just you. 
If your spouse is on board- great. 
If your spouse is not on board- also great. 
You don’t need the other person to be involved in changing your marriage (or any relationship).  
You can do it alone. 
They don’t even need to know it’s happening. 

(Sidebar- I do recommend open communication as much as possible, especially in a marriage. My point here is: you alone CAN have a hugely positive impact on your relationship.)

OK, so back to the original question: 
What would it be like to LOVE your marriage? 
To feel in love like you first did? 
To enjoy each other’s company like you used to. 
To want to snuggle. To want to be near each other. 
To talk about more than just logistics, money, and child-care. 
To remember what it was that made you fall in love with this person sitting across from you (maybe, they’re in the other room?) in the first place. 

Take a second. 
Breathe into that. 
Really, what would it be like? 
It IS possible. 
It’s NOT too late. 

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would would it be like to love your job

To be excited to get up in the morning, rather than dread your alarm. 

To look forward to going to bed so that you could get up in the morning and go to that job.

Seriously, it IS possible to love a job this much.  

Did you ever have a job like that? 
Do you remember what it felt like? 
Maybe it was one of your first jobs? 

What if you found a job that you loved so much, you’d be willing to do it for free? 

I remember standing at the closed doors to the Emergency Room that I wanted to work in (I was outside waiting to be brought in for an interview). I remember so clearly thinking, “I’m on the wrong side of the doors. Look, there are my future co-workers.” I 100% would have worked at that job for free. 

If you had a job that you loved that much, 
you’d be happier, 
you would feel good about yourself, and 
your heart would be full.

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would would it be like to have more time

We all have the same number of minutes in a day (1,440), but it’s how we manage those minutes. 

What would it be like to do everything you want to do, 
even with a full-time job,
or three,
plus some kids, 
maybe a side-hustle, 
parents to care for 
And your OWN life (what’s that, again?). 

What would it be like to not rush? 
To have plenty of time. 
No clocks ticking-away. 
No need to run around. 
Time for doing all the things,
including having fun. 

Seriously. Stop right now, just for a minute; 
take a deep breath and imagine it. 

What would it be like?
How does that feel? 

Part of better time management is learning what is essential and what is not. 
Where to focus and where not to. 
For example, perseverating about IF you made the right decision is a waste of time. Either it works, and you can move on (celebrate!), or it didn’t work, and you can learn and move on (also celebrate!). 
Either way, you move on. 
See how easy that is?

The other part of time management is just doing it. 
When you feel overwhelmed, break your to-do list into small actionable steps. 
Then pick just three actions and do them. 
When they’re done, that’s three less things to do. 
Celebrate and move on. 
See how easy that is? 

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what would it be like

I’m starting a new series here that I call, “What would it be like?” 

I invite you to stop for a minute and imagine the scenario presented. 

Do you have this?

Do you want this? 

What would it be like if you did have it? 

Don’t worry about how or when just yet. 

I invite you to simply see the POSSIBILITY. 

With love, 
Christine

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new year goals

What would it be like to actually obtain the goals you set? 

Just like you, I was eager for a fresh start this January. It made our usual tradition of sending off lanterns from the New Year’s Eve bonfire with our wishes and goals for the coming year all the more relevant.

The end of a year and the start of a new one is a good time for reflection on where you’ve been and, more importantly, where you want to go. 

It’s been a month since the new year. 
Did you make plans?
Do you have goals you would love to bring to reality? 
How’s it going? 

If you are looking for help taking your life from where you are to where you would rather be, reach out for a consult (it’s free). 

Photo: me, launching a lantern on NYE 2021- one of my favorite traditions. I usually send off a wish. This year I wished for more coaching clients to help. God/ the Universe/ whatever you call it responded that I should feel grateful instead. Roger that.

believe in you

I realized yesterday that I fully trust and believe everything. single. thing. my coach says to me. 

When she says she believes in me, I believe her. 

And when she says she believes in me, I see that I can believe in myself, too. 

And as I grow in my belief in myself more consistently, 
she holds the space and 
believes in me enough for both of us. 

My coach and I have enough in common that I know we have walked similar paths. They may look different on the outside, but I know she has had the same internal struggles I now have, too.  She used to think she didn’t know quite what to do or how to do it, too. 

Sure, she’s been doing this longer. 
Yes, she’s worked hard. 
Heck, she’s even worked hard to learn how to make work FUN, and not so hard. 😉

But I see, there is nothing she has that I don’t have, too. 

When I see her results, 
I see what is possible for me, too. 

When I see her do it, 
I know I can do it, too. 

I can do this for you. If you’d like someone to hold space and believe in you, too, please reach out. I would love to work with you.

Photo: dated 3/31/18. Monty and I were embarking on a road trip I had wanted to take for years but did not think was possible. It was. I had a dream of driving from Montana to Florida alone. I did it. My coach at that time, Dru, helped me to see what steps I need to take to make it happen. I bawled as I drove out of town; I was terrified and wondered why I put myself into this situation in the first place... but the further I got from home, the more confident I felt. I had decided that it was "too far to turn back now," so I kept going. Naturally, I learned a lot on this solo trip, not the least of which- that I was brave and that I could indeed do hard and scary things alone and be just fine. And I felt really proud of myself.

shifting out of the gray and winter blahs

This past weekend, it was gray out, and I was feeling a little down. The long gray winters here in Montana sometimes get to me. On these days, I feel lonely and unmotivated. Sometimes I take the day off & I’m ok with doing nothing. But somedays I don’t want to feel that way, so I work to shift myself out of it. 

How? 

For me, I have two options to help myself feel better: 
movement & 
journalling. 

I chose to journal. 

First, I reminded myself of my words for the year (one is not enough, so I have five): 
~ gratitude
~ sufficiency
~ fun
~ certainty
~ extraordinary (as in living an extraordinary life) 

Then I asked myself a few questions: 
What am I grateful for? 
How do I have sufficiency in my life? 
What have I done that is fun recently, and how can I create more fun? 
What am I certain of, and how can I have more certainty? 
and my favorite question: 
What can I do to have an extraordinary life right now? 

Sometimes I forget- I have all my own answers. I tend to ask everyone else. It seems so much easier that way, but you know what? “They” don’t have MY answers. And when I “poll my friends,” I put my power into their hands, increasing my dependency on others. 

No, that is not necessary. 

I know [with certainty- see what I did there? ;)] that I can help my clients have anything they want in their lives. Therefore, I know with certainty that I can help MYSELF have anything I want in my life, too. 

I did not want to feel blue and wallow in that this weekend. 
I reminded myself of what I wanted more of, what I want to practice.
I journaled about it, reminding myself of what I already have. 
I got myself to a place of service, moving from my head to my heart. 
And I felt so much better. 

photo: me, in my robe, being a dork, attempting to provide value by posting IG stories. I do not love talking to cameras- it's going to take me a bit to warm up.

who the eff I am

I’m reading The Source, by Dr. Tara Swart. She explains the science behind visualization and manifestation (spoiler alert: you do not just sit there, thinking about things, and then they happen- you still have to take action). 

Through one of her exercise prompts, I remembered that I can do hard things. I AM kick-ass. A few of the things I’ve done: 
~ moved across the country, 
~ taken a solo cross-country road trip, 
~ helped raise a child, 
~ fought infertility, 
~ saved my marriage, 
~ quit a successful professional career, 
~ followed my heart, 
~ said yes, 
~ said no, 
~ gotten me into better alignment, 
~ established a healthier relationship with alcohol (read: little to none). 

Now, I continue to remember who the eff I am while I create the life I dream of. I remember that hells yes I can do this, because I can do hard things (see evidence above) AND ain’t nobody else going to do it for me!

a very smiley picture of me, just before I walked into a talk that I bombed. That's OK b/c I can still do hard things.