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According to Inc., “A study of 800 million activities predicts most New Year’s Resolutions will be abandoned on January 19.” 

If you’re having a hard time sticking to your New Year’s Resolutions- this is not a problem! Try these minor tweaks to improve your “stick-to-itness.”  

• Decide to do it and re-commit to your resolution or goal. 
• Keep it fun. Experiment & try different things. How do you know what you do and don’t like until you try it? 
• Start easy and don’t overcommit. You have all of forever to get this figured out. 
• Don’t judge your results, but rather, look for the evidence that it IS working. 
• Evaluate along the way, writing out what works, what doesn’t work, and what would you do differently next time? 

Now you have clear directions to try next time when you can evaluate & tweak again. 

[Continued from the previous post about 2022- click here to read.]

While I realize that having one big hairy audacious goal (or BHAG), three phrases of the year & three reminders might seem like a lot for some people, I have allllll of 2022 to live into these. I’ll put decorative stickies on my computer, I already have them in my notes (on my phone), and they will soon be on my bathroom mirror- as daily reminders.

Why “phrases” of the year? I do phrases because single words often aren’t adequate for what I want to portray, but the concept is the same. I roll various phrases around my head for a bit, thinking about where I’ve been and what I want for myself in the coming year. The ones I like most stick around, and then I commit to them.

INSPIRED ACTION: I’ve found that I have ideas but don’t always put them into action &/ or, I have the same few “to-dos” on my list for a long time. (Hello email list, I’m talking to you.) Since I know I can coach my clients on anything, and I am learning how to coach myself- there is simply no need for this. I want to clear more brain space for ease, grace, and more clarity. So, in 2022, I will do my daily work to inspire myself into action enjoying the work and not just slogging through it.

CEO: I’m embracing my role as CEO of Christine Seager Coaching. Being a solopreneur means learning to be both employee and boss simultaneously; I have to hold myself (as an employee) accountable to myself (as the boss). Let me tell you something- going from a nurse who uses critical thinking skills, but also follows orders to a solopreneur who does it alone- is a trip. It’s easy to say- “I’ll do that later,” or “I’m not sure how,” or “I don’t know what to do next.” Guess where that gets you? Nowhere and definitely not any closer to my BHAG.

As CEO, I will have a structured plan, know what I’m working on at any moment, and have clear next steps. I am mindful of my time, ensuring I’m using it proficiently and stepping towards my BHAG.

A YEAR OF HEALTH: I’m hesitant to share this here for a few reasons. 1. because it’s such a cliché thing to say at the start of a new year. 2. because I’ve made similar promises in the past and as soon as I announce it, I fall off the wagon. But this time it’s different because I’m committed to it.

A year of health means making wise decisions about what I put into my mouth (I.E., less sugar, and more water), moving my body, and stretching. (I’ll be honest, I don’t yet have a clear plan for stretching, but I will by the end of this week.) I’m evaluating the action I’m taking and correcting course with the goal of life-long health & well-being. (Stay tuned to hear about the exact steps I’m taking for this.)

Again, I have an entire year to work all of this out. I don’t expect to be rocking my CEO role or to be the epitome of physical fitness and health this week or even this month, but I do hope to be further along by the end of 2022.

Hey. Hi there. Hello.

Did you have a nice holiday? I did.

Y’all ready for 2022? I am.

I love the new year, but really I love any opportunity for fresh beginnings (which I know could be at any moment, like any given Tuesday at 2:37 PM). 💃🏻

I have several small goals and one big, hairy, audacious goal for 2022.
I’m done rolling my “phrases of the year” around my head (see below).
I have several events already scheduled for 2022.
And I’m ready to hit the ground running– after a nap (because it’s Saturday, it’s New Year’s Day, and I can).

My phrases for the year are inspired action, CEO, and a year of health.

I have one promise: sunshine= get outside no matter the temperature AND don’t delay (as you might lose the sunshine).

And three reminders:
~ Everything you want it’s up to you.
~ Your happiness is your responsibility- at all times.
~ Be willing to feel all the feels (including the scary ones like judgment, “failure,” and not doing it “right”). [sharing for a friend 😉]

What, if anything, do you do for the new year?

[Continued on the next post, click here to read about my phrases of the year.]

I’m doing a workshop on goal setting for 2022, and a significant part of reaching your goals is being willing to fail.

As children, we’re taught not to fail in school- if we fail our exams, we will get low grades and not graduate or move onto the next level (not to mention getting into trouble with parents & teachers).

As adults, failure is a necessary part of life! Think about learning how to do anything- drive a car, ski or snowboard, or ride a bike.

When I learned how to cross-country ski, I already knew downhill, but I still struggled to learn this new way. I couldn’t quite figure out how to GO without gravity on my side. And my cross-country skis were longer & more awkward than my downhills. So I fell, again and again, getting increasingly frustrated. At one point, I started crying out of frustration, and then I was laughing at my ridiculousness- now crying and laughing at the same time.

Could you imagine if the first time I fell, I just packed up & left? I would have never learned, and I love XC skiing. I would have missed out on years of enjoyment.

The same is true for any new endeavor. Are you starting a new job, new position, or taking on a new role? Are you learning a new skill or a new sport? Are you learning how to run your side business, make more money, lose weight or be more physically active in a sustainable way? If not, no problem- it’s new to you.

You are LEARNING how to do the thing, and “failure” is part of it. Instead of focusing on failure, focus on LEARNING and the courage it takes to learn something new.

I often hear from my clients that they want something…
To feel confident, for example.
To make more money.
To be a better manager.

I usually respond with- Great! What might that look like to you?

They go blank.
They don’t know.
Sometimes, they’ve never really thought about that specifically before.

Of- course, it isn’t easy to OBTAIN something when you don’t know what IT is!

The first step to reaching any goal is naming it, then being very specific, visualizing what, exactly, that would look like for you.

What does “confidence” mean to you?
What might that look like to you- in your life?
How might you be willing to demonstrate ‘confident’ in your life?

How much money would you like to make?
How many more hours could you work or how many more products would you have to sell?
How could you do that? What are your options?

Same with being a better manager… what does that look like to you?
Specifically, for your job?
What are some ways you could demonstrate being a better manager right now?

Go do that!

Did you know you are your own best mentor? Yes, your future self has all of your answers. Just imagine who you are in your future and then ask your future self questions.

Get to know your future self with a few questions:
What are you like? What have you created? What is your life like? What has come into your life? What have you let go of? Describe your day-to-day life- what do you do on your days off, and what do your workdays look like? What trips have you booked or taken? How do you feel about yourself? What thoughts are you thinking, and how do those thoughts feel?

It might be helpful to start with what you know. If you’re interested in “meeting” your future business self, start with the Life’s Intention that is most meaningful for you. Perhaps to be a contributor to your community or to be a well-respected professional. Then, imagine what you are doing 5 or 10 years from now. What are you wearing? Who are you meeting? How do you answer the age-old question: what do you do? What are your children doing? Where are you living? What does your kitchen or your office look like?

At some point, you will feel a shift. You can actually see yourself doing the things you are imagining. It will feel like more than just randomly making up stuff. It will begin to feel more real. “Yes, I can see myself doing that. Yes, that would be amazing to do. Yep, this is becoming more clear.”

The more details and specificity, the better.

So, now that you have met your future self start asking questions from where you are now. How did I get there? Should I take this opportunity or not? What is the best way to go about doing this?

Just ask your future self & see what comes up. You truly can be your own best mentor; you just have to know how.

Hey, the holidays are fast among us; Thanksgiving is this week. 

While it’s supposed to be a time of togetherness, joy, & love, this time of year often brings stress, pressure, and upset. 

Sometimes words are exchanged, and those words might sting, but they don’t have to. 

You get to choose what you make everything mean. 

Words are just words. [I know- say what?] But, think about that for a minute. Words really are just words. You get to decide what you make those words mean. 

If someone says something and you get offended, it’s because you worry that there is truth in it.

For example, if someone said, “You’re a blonde” (but you are actually a brunette), you would laugh at the ridiculousness of it. Because those words hold zero water, they wouldn’t bother you at all; you would think- this is simply ridiculous. 

What if someone said, “You’re stupid.” Hmmm… these words *might* hold water. You’re questioning- am I stupid? Why do they think I’m stupid? What did I say or do to make them think I’m stupid? 

But, if you believe that you are not stupid, just as strongly as you believe you are not blonde, then these words would hold zero water and wouldn’t bother you at all. You would think- this is simply ridiculous.

What if you didn’t believe it was true? 

What if you found evidence to show yourself (NOT as arguing points to your counterpart) that it is not true? 

What if you simply recognized that words are just words? 

And, that person can think whatever they want to think about you, just as you get to think whatever you want to think about you, too?

Remember last year, when you gave a talk, that public talk, & it was terrible, just genuinely awful- the worst talk ever?

And to be clear, this was not one of those- “Are you sure it was that bad? Maybe you’re just being hard on yourself…” For reals, it honestly was that bad. 

You flew through 2 hours of content in 45 minutes. You read every single word that you spoke from your notes. You never did settle in, slow down, or take it in stride. You looked up only at the very end to see where you were going to walk off stage. And your audience consisted of four people— including your mother & one of her friends. It was your first live presentation & the thought that anyone from anywhere could be watching at any time terrified you. Your performance showed as much. 

A few hours (days, hours, whatever) later, you were able to put down regret & pick yourself back up. You listened to Brené Brown’s talk about vulnerability hangovers, reminded yourself that it’s a thing, & found solace in the realization that you would likely never give a talk that badly ever again. Probably. It was over now; it wasn’t pleasant, but you survived. 

Fast forward a year later. You have a fantastic opportunity to give not one but two talks. While your audience is limited, it’s still possible that anyone from anywhere could watch at any time, but this thought no longer terrifies you. Instead, you are calm, cool, and collected. You are prepared; you BRING it. 

Why? What’s different? 

For one, as previously mentioned, you chose to believe you could never give a talk as bad ever again, & you created this reality for yourself.

Also, you remember that if you ever did have a similar experience, you would be OK; you’d survive. So, even if it feels like it, you will not actually die from giving another talk. And while not desirable, you are willing to feel that bad again because you know you will be OK. 

Most importantly, you’ve learned how to get crystal clear on the value you provide to others. 

You “mine” the evidence by asking yourself: 

Why are you the right person for this? 

Why is this the right audience? 

Why is this the right information? 

What is the right dose or amount of information (how deep do you want to go)?

What is the right route (how do you want to deliver this information)? 

Why is this the right time (why now)? 

Why is this the right reason, or why does this audience need this information? 

What is the right response you want the audience to have? 

Regarding right documentation- ASAP after the talk, do a quick evaluation: what went well, what didn’t go so well, what would you do differently- so you have straightforward suggestions for next time!

You want to be a good mom, but you come home from work exhausted. Nevertheless, you are willing to be a loving family member by telling your daughter how much you love her when she’s brushing her teeth before bed (bedtime is usually a trying time for you both). 

You want your staff to feel well supported, but you don’t have any information or answers to share, either. Nevertheless, you are willing to be a contributor to your community by speaking to everyone personally, for more interaction, building support & community. 

You want more time to do what you love to do (create art), but you’re too tired after work to get started. Nevertheless, you are willing to be a creator of beauty, so this Saturday, you put an old table in the corner of the spare bedroom where you can leave your art supplies out, ready to go. 

You want more energy to go to the gym and work out. Nevertheless, you are willing to be physically fit and healthy by setting yourself up for success. You have your gym clothes in the car, your kids know you’ll be busy & unavailable for an hour, and you will go straight to the gym after work, bypassing any opportunity to get “sucked into the couch,” starting tomorrow.  

You want to be empathetic towards your patients, but quite frankly, you struggle when your ethics are so different from theirs. Nevertheless, you are willing to be a contributor to your community by giving them the best care that you can- after all, they, too, deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. 

You want to take time off but feel guilty leaving your co-workers and peers. Nevertheless, you are willing to be a visionary leader by having a clarifying conversation with your boss by Friday’s end of the day, discussing what a successful leave could be. 

You miss your family when you’re traveling; it’s not possible to be in two places at once. Nevertheless, you are willing to be a loving family member by sending treats to let them know you are thinking of them from afar. 

P.S. Don’t for one second think I don’t coach myself on this stuff, too. I do. Most of what you’ve got, I’ve had, too. The only difference between you and me is I have two years of BEING COACHED under my belt. And I spent these past two and a half years learning about myself and how my mind works. So if I can do it, you can do it, too.