I just LOVE it when my clients share their celebrations.
Celebrating so clearly reminds us that we CAN do hard things. And if you’re celebrating, then you already did something hard!
Celebrating helps keep us focused. We see that it IS working, which keeps us motivated so we can do more hard things.
Lastly, celebrating helps us more easily come back to this good place. When we look for things to celebrate, spend time in them, and absorb them into our bones our brain fires & wires those synapses together. This creating a more direct path so we can get to this good place faster & more easily next time.
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This topic comes up frequently during coaching sessions.
Often we are the most upset when we’re resisting the emotions we feel.
Maybe we don’t want to be uncomfortable.
Maybe we’re afraid of what will happen when we feel those feelings.
Maybe we think it’s “wrong” or “shouldn’t” feel a certain way.
But, when we accept what is, including feeling, all the feels, is when the energy shifts, the space opens, and we can move through it.
Try it for yourself. I feel __ b/c __. Keep going & get all the “yuck” out on paper. Write it down or share it with a friend.
Then ask yourself: how would you rather feel?
What thoughts could you think to help you feel that way?
Some examples (and feel free to borrow any of these thoughts for yourself): I am INSPIRED. The sun is shining, and I feel good today. So let’s take advantage of this time and make hay while the sun shines!
I am GRATEFUL for the love & support that’s around me. Specifically, I have a wonderful spouse who let me cough up all my yuck to him this morning. I am LOVING. I will return his love to him by being appreciative & sharing how much better I feel with him. I am IN AWE of the human experience; what a trip life is- the good & the bad. I’m thrilled to be witnessing it. I am SUPPORTIVE. I will do my best to support others in what they want to do and how they want to show up to life.
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For my people who struggle with “not-enoughness” or lack:
I see you.
You feel like there is never enough time.
There is not enough money.
You are not enough.
You don’t do enough.
You aren’t good enough.
You aren’t taking enough care of your people, yourself, your peers, your patients.
No matter how much you give, no matter what you do, it is still not enough.
You are oh so tired of the constant battle- the worries, the stress, the decision fatigue– the what is best and where and how and why?
I have one question for you.
Is it true?
Get to the facts.
Do a time study.
Check the bank accounts.
Get feedback.
Do the research.
Often, you will find that it is not actually true. You may see the money or find the time simply doing the research.
For example, when you feel like there is not enough money- check the accounts and do the math- is it true? How much money is there; what is the exact dollar amount? How much is “enough”? Are you paying your bills every month? Do you have a roof over your head? Is your family eating? Do you have clothes to wear?
What about time? How are you spending your time? Maybe you scroll. Maybe you perseverate about worries. Maybe you spend time complaining about work when you are not at work. How’s that working for you? That’s like doing a double workday… for free. You don’t get paid for this additional time!! Stop that! What about this- how much time do you spend worrying about not enough time?
Time and time again, my clients find that what they think and believe is not really true.
When you feel like there is lack or not-enoughness, just ask yourself: is this true? And look at the facts.
Today, my client expressed how it’s so much easier to hold himself accountable when he gets support by sharing his intentions with others.
Yep.
Support expands your confidence, caring, and compassion; your innate desire to do what’s best for you & your loved ones, even (or especially) when the action you know you need to take feels challenging and scary.
We often know what we need to do, what is ours to do, but we stall, giving in to the inertia, wondering why we haven’t yet taken action.
Instead, in getting support, we can move forward to a different way of relating to each other in a kind, caring, and compassionate way…
LIVING A BEAUTIFUL LIFE.
Support is simply, “to give assistance to.” Support can look like: simply sharing what your intention is, sharing what and by when you are willing to do something, having a discussion with someone about something difficult. It’s a matter of being accountable to someone outside of yourself to help make your actions easier.
What is more interesting to you? Engaging in (continued) inertia or living an extraordinary life?
As we know, the Great Resignation continues. People are unsatisfied, unfulfilled, & generally fed up with the lack of work-life balance. During the pandemic, we had the time to notice life passing by too quickly. We had the opportunity to step back and evaluate what we wanted in life. More money, flexibility, and happiness are at the top of our lists. And being more valued is especially sought after, right now, for many healthcare workers, causing us to rethink what work really means to us. Sure, there are still bills to pay, but we are finding ways to make work accommodate our joy adventure, family, and life in general.
Sometimes the grass IS greener on the other side, and that’s OK, too.
To be appreciative is to feel or show gratitude or pleasure.
Similar to gratitude, we can look for the good in other people, sit with it for a bit, and absorb it into our core.
Do you feel generally appreciated in life? At work? For the things you do? For the things you don’t do?
What about this- how much do you appreciate those around you? Do you look for the good in others? Then, when you find it, do you take a minute to appreciate and soak that goodness into your core?
Let’s try it. Think of one person in your life. Can you list ten things you appreciate about them? Which one or two “appreciates” would you be willing to carry around with you for a bit? Are you willing to speak with that person and share your appreciation? If so, by when?
Bonus: can you do the same with someone more difficult- find ten things you appreciate about them, select one or two to hold onto, share your appreciation with them, and choose a date/ time to do so?
What do you see now? How do you imagine you will feel after you share this appreciation with them? How or do you feel when someone shares what they appreciate about you with you? Let’s get out and spread more of that goodness.
Are you one of those people who can’t leave work at work?
You worry about your employees, co-workers, and peers wondering if they are happy, if they like their jobs, or if they will leave? And if they do, who will take care of the patients?
OR
There are so many changes- what will things look like in 6 months or a year from now? Will you still have the same job?
OR
How will all the work ever get done? There are so many things to do and not enough time.
Here are a few concepts to keep in mind when mitigating our stress.
Remember that thoughts are just thoughts. We have over 60-thousand thoughts a day; 95% of those thoughts are the same thoughts we had yesterday, and 80% of those are negative. So that is 45,600 repetitive, negative thoughts a day.
Staying present- to the here and now helps. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, and worry stem from focusing on the future. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievance, sadness, and bitterness stem from focusing on the past. There is no room for these emotions when we focus on the present.
Journalling helps get the concerns out of us & onto paper so we can identify & clearly address each one.
Knowing our life’s itentions helps us determine what action to take to relieve our stress.
