Nurse turned Life Coach integrating neuroscience & thought work so you can feel better and be happier.
Failure requires an endpoint against which to measure- otherwise, how would you know if or when you failed?
And possibilities are infinite- there is no end to the possibilities that could exist.
Therefore, failure is not possible- there’s no endpoint against which to measure because the possibilities for you/ for your life, are infinite.
We’re always saying yes to something, even if it’s just scrolling on our phones mindlessly for hours. Whether we’re fully aware of it or not, how we spend our time is what we’ve chosen to say YES to.
But the BIGGER YES is when we live in alignment with what is most important to us.
Do you want to be mindlessly scrolling, or would you rather be present to life?
Do you want to be mindlessly scrolling, or would you rather be cultivating meaningful relationships with people, even if just online?
Do you want to be mindlessly scrolling, or would you rather observe, learn, and get to the heart of what matters?
When you are willing to be PRESENT- you are present to life and all that goes on around you.
When you are willing to be SUPPORTIVE, TRUTHFUL, or VULNERABLE- you cultivate meaningful relationships with people, even just online.
And when you are willing to be COMPASSIONATE, OPEN, or RECEPTIVE- you observe, learn, and clearly see what is at the heart of what matters.
Be willing to, and you will be.
When was the last time you did something for the first time?
This past March, my mom went to Europe for the first time, and I was there for it. My greatest joy was watching her ooohing and aaahing at all the sites, and she discovered she LOVES gelato!
(Also, making my mom smile & laugh is one of my favorite things. I’m so glad I caught a picture of this.)
When you see possibility,
And then do that which seemed impossible
Your brain says, “Huh, I wonder what else is possible.”
Everything.
Everything is possible.
You don’t have to know how or when,
just know
It is possible.
Believe.
Then do.
And you will achieve.
Do you want a quick and easy way to make a connection with others? They will pay more attention to you, better remember what you say and do, and it only takes 3-5 seconds… make eye contact.
Eye contact increases your bond with others, displays honesty, builds trust and increases understanding. As a result, others feel more empathy, are more self-aware and feel safer being honest with you.
In her book, Stroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor, Jill shares how after her stroke, she could easily sense the people who were there to care for & help her or those who were just ‘going through the motions.’ She said, “I needed them to look me in the eye… to just bring their hope and their energy to me, as opposed to taking energy away. It was all I had at that moment.”
As healthcare providers, our own energy reserves are low, and it can be challenging to share the little energy we have. But in only a few seconds, we can contribute to others, and of course, that goodness comes back to us, filling us up. Imagine how good it feels to be both the giver and the receiver of safety, honesty, trust, and understanding- or just try it for yourself.
My clients often hear me say: mindset + action = results.
Sometimes MINDSET means being willing to do hard things,
being willing to do what that we which don’t necessarily want to do,
and being willing to be uncomfortable,
all for the results we want.
Regarding what ACTIONS to take, it’s probably easy enough to write your to-do list, but David Allan (Getting Things Done) suggests writing a list of “next actions” instead. For example, suppose I have to change my car’s tires. In that case, there are several steps: decide where I would like to go, call to make an appointment, get the tires out of storage and into my car, determine what I will do while the tires are getting changed (I.E., will I need a ride?), and block out my work schedule so no one else can book time. Each of these is a separate “next action.”
Be willing to: be uncomfortable, consistently show up for yourself, and do the hard things, and before you know it, your neverending to-do list will be a thing of the past.
Do you ever have a realization? I mean just one specific thing that you realize and then everything changes?
Maybe you’re washing dishes or in the shower (I do all of my best thinking in the shower) and something profound dawns on you and you’re like- wow, I can have that, do that, be that, etc.
In that moment, everything changes, even your body feels different.
I had one of these yesterday, and it felt amazing, but I didn’t write it down and now I forget what it was and I feel sad.
PSA- write it down IMMEDIATELY!
That’s all.
Are you aware of what’s happening when you have a life-altering transformation? Do you know that it’s happening while it’s happening?
I would venture to say… sometimes yes and sometimes no.
In my life, there were times when I knew I was embarking on a life-altering transformation. The obvious ones were when I went away to college, later moved across the country, and subsequently met my husband.
But there were also times when I didn’t realize a life-altering transformation was coming. Like the time one of my clients moved to tears and said, “Oh my God, I had no idea I was making this so hard on myself.” Or the time that I was moved to tears when another client bought herself a scooter. I was so proud of her- for the life she was creating and the courage she had to live a life she loves. And I was so overwhelmed with joy and honored to be there to witness it. A moment of loss can also be a life-altering transformation that you don’t know is coming- everything changes instantly.
Then there were times that I desperately wanted a life-altering transformation: when I hired my first coach- I felt like something was missing, but I couldn’t quite put a finger on it. When I started coaching school- I knew I needed coaching for myself as much as I wanted to learn to help others. Or, more recently, when I purchased an online business course, hoping it would give me all the answers and tell me everything to do to grow my business. But instead, it taught me how to change my THINKING, completely altering my life forever- not the change I expected.
If you believe there is some reason you cannot change your life, it is simply not true. You can change your life in a single moment. Think about your own life-altering transformations: decisions you have made, things you have done, the courage you have. Do you see how in one moment, you changed your life? And if you’re someone who desperately wants a life-altering transformation, please reach out. I can help you. I have been there. I’ve done it myself. I’ve supported others to change their lives, and you can do it too. There is no reason you can’t change and live a life you love.
I just LOVE it when my clients share their celebrations.
Celebrating so clearly reminds us that we CAN do hard things. And if you’re celebrating, then you already did something hard!
Celebrating helps keep us focused. We see that it IS working, which keeps us motivated so we can do more hard things.
Lastly, celebrating helps us more easily come back to this good place. When we look for things to celebrate, spend time in them, and absorb them into our bones our brain fires & wires those synapses together. This creating a more direct path so we can get to this good place faster & more easily next time.
If this interests you and you would like to celebrate too, book a free discovery call… and you’ll have this goofy girl 👉🏻 cheering you on. 😂🤣
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All feelings are welcome.
This topic comes up frequently during coaching sessions.
Often we are the most upset when we’re resisting the emotions we feel.
Maybe we don’t want to be uncomfortable.
Maybe we’re afraid of what will happen when we feel those feelings.
Maybe we think it’s “wrong” or “shouldn’t” feel a certain way.
But, when we accept what is, including feeling, all the feels, is when the energy shifts, the space opens, and we can move through it.
Try it for yourself.
I feel __ b/c __.
Keep going & get all the “yuck” out on paper. Write it down or share it with a friend.
Then ask yourself: how would you rather feel?
What thoughts could you think to help you feel that way?
Some examples (and feel free to borrow any of these thoughts for yourself):
I am INSPIRED. The sun is shining, and I feel good today. So let’s take advantage of this time and make hay while the sun shines!
I am GRATEFUL for the love & support that’s around me. Specifically, I have a wonderful spouse who let me cough up all my yuck to him this morning.
I am LOVING. I will return his love to him by being appreciative & sharing how much better I feel with him.
I am IN AWE of the human experience; what a trip life is- the good & the bad. I’m thrilled to be witnessing it.
I am SUPPORTIVE. I will do my best to support others in what they want to do and how they want to show up to life.
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