Clarity: Coaching helps you clarify your values, priorities, and aspirations, enabling you to make informed decisions aligned with your true desires.
Empowerment: Through coaching, you’ll develop self-awareness, self-confidence, and assertiveness, empowering you to set and enforce healthy boundaries, freeing you from people-pleasing tendencies.
Overcoming perfectionism: Coaching provides practical tools and strategies to challenge perfectionistic tendencies, helping you embrace progress over perfection and fostering self-acceptance.
Action-oriented mindset: Coaches support you in overcoming procrastination by breaking down goals into actionable steps, enhancing your time management skills, and fostering accountability.
Goal attainment: With coaching, you’ll set clear, measurable goals and receive guidance on creating effective action plans, increasing your likelihood of achieving personal and professional milestones.
Enhanced fulfillment: Coaching encourages you to explore and pursue a life you love, aligning your actions with your passions, values, and strengths, ultimately leading to increased fulfillment and happiness.
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Today I want to talk about a straightforward coaching concept with two parts.
Define it.
According to whom?
Let’s discuss.
You want to be more CONFIDENT.
What does confidence mean?
“A feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.”
According to whom?
You; it says right there- one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.
So, you get to define confidence for yourself.
Let’s take another:
WORTHY– having adequate or great merit, character, or value.
Adequate or great merit, character, or value- according to whom?
Who gauges what adequate or great merit, character, or value is?
Who says this is adequate or great, but this is not?
Who is the authority?
[Hint: it’s you; you get to decide.]
How about one of my favorites, PERFECT, as we try to do with our beloved perfectionism?
What does perfect even mean? Let’s see.
“Having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.”
According to whom?
Who decides the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics of something (or someone)?
And even if someone does have an opinion on this, who says they are right? (Who died and made them king?)
OK, last one, ENOUGH.
Define: “as much or as many as required.”
That’s quite vague.
Enough of what?
How much is required?
And (you’ve got it now), according to whom?
It’s YOU; you get to decide for yourself.
You get to decide if you appreciate your own abilities or qualities.
You get to decide if you have adequate or great merit, character, or value.
You get to decide if something has all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; if it’s as good as it is possible to be.
You get to decide if something has as much or as many as required.
You even get to define what is required!
I invite you to figure this out for yourself.
Get clear. Define each of these for you.
See what you come up with.
Decide if you hit the mark or not.
Decide if it matters if you hit that mark or not,
And see what you can do differently to get there if that is indeed what you want.
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What are some practical ways you’ve learned to embrace your imperfections?
For me, it’s important to remember that we are all human beings simply doing our best (aka. humaning).
I work on giving as much grace to myself as I do to others.
Just like I give people the benefit of the doubt and try to understand their perspective, I do the same for myself by taking a moment to reflect on why I made certain choices or acted in a certain way.
Remember, understanding doesn’t necessarily mean agreement, but it does help with self-awareness and acceptance.
Another approach to embracing imperfections is to list the three (ONLY 3) things you don’t love most about yourself and explore how each has served you.
Once you understand their value, you can decide whether to keep those aspects or commit to making changes.
If you choose to pursue change, start by defining what you want, and recognize that it’s possible with the right thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Create a well-thought-out plan and diligently implement it, focusing on actions that move you closer to your desired transformation while avoiding those that don’t.
Be prepared to mitigate negative thoughts and feelings that may arise, and be open to feeling uncomfortable along the way.
Take the time to acknowledge your progress, celebrate your achievements, and regularly evaluate your journey.
Remember, embracing imperfections is an ongoing process, so be patient with yourself and repeat these steps as needed.
If you would like support in facing your imperfections, working with a nonjudgmental coach who can provide a safe space for you is truly valuable. At Christine Seager Coaching, I specialize in this kind of transformative work. If you’re interested in receiving support, book a complimentary, no-obligation consultation right here.
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Establish one specific, measurable, and timely goal.
Notice I don’t say achievable because I want you to go big.
Having a goal you think is impossible is okay if you don’t beat yourself up on your way to achieving it.
And if you go bigger than you think is possible, you’re less likely to hold yourself back and more likely to achieve more.
Focus on that one goal.
What are the actions you need to take? Again, be very specific. Write all the steps and as many micro-steps as possible, then make them chronological.
Now you have a clear starting point, and you can get going.
As you begin to act, your brain will offer negative thoughts and feelings.
The next step is to allow these negative feelings.
How?
Notice that they are there. Determine where in your body. Describe them in detail (color, shape, weight, movement, waveform, etc.). Remind yourself that you have thus not died from feeling a negative emotion.
Then decide how you would rather feel about the action you are taking. Reminder: feelings are one-word vibrations in your body.
What thoughts, when you think them, create that feeling for you?
If this is hard, please know that it’s a practice. And let’s find evidence for how you want to feel.
Think of another time you feel the way you want to.
What thoughts create that feeling for you?
Borrow from there and apply those thoughts here.
Practice those thoughts over and over.
Keep taking action and thinking those thoughts.
Evaluate your results.
Correct course when needed.
Wash, rinse, repeat.
When your first goal becomes a habit, when it’s easy to do, start working on your next goal.
If you feel overwhelmed and want to learn how to practice constraint, I can help. I offer complimentary, no-obligation consultation calls here. LHW Employee IN PERSON Coaching Sessions are here, and remote sessions are here.
