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Accepting Feedback

Have you ever walked away from feedback—no matter how “constructive” it was—feeling like you got punched in the gut?

You’re not alone.

Negative feedback has a way of getting under our skin. We take it personally.
We spiral.
We make it mean so much more than it needs to.

We tell ourselves:
“I’m so dumb.”
“I’ll never be successful.”
“This isn’t working.”
“They don’t get me.”

And while the words themselves might sting, we’re the ones beating ourselves up in the aftermath.

But what if you could hear feedback—even the tough stuff—and handle it with grace?
No spiraling. No shame. No making it mean you’re somehow not good enough.

Here’s how:

Step 1: Stop & Take a Beat. Then Respond.

You don’t need to react immediately. Give yourself a moment.

Choose a simple phrase (or two) to have in your back pocket:

  • “Thank you. I’ll take that under consideration.”
  • “I see what you’re saying. I’ll think about that for next time.”
  • “OK, thank you.”

That’s it.
You can respond respectfully without over-explaining, defending, or making it awkward.

Example:
Your manager says:
“I think your documentation could be more thorough.”

Instead of panicking or apologizing, you calmly say:
“Thanks for the feedback. I’ll keep that in mind.”

That’s all you need in the moment. You can process it later.

Step 2: Process It—When You’re Ready

When you have some time to think, ask yourself:

  • Is there any truth here?
  • Can I see their perspective, even if I don’t fully agree?
  • Do I want to make any changes based on this feedback?
  • Is there something to learn here?

Sometimes feedback shines a light on a skill or area you want to improve.

Example:
Feedback: “You didn’t seem prepared for that patient handoff.”

Your first reaction might be frustration.
But when you step back, you might realize:

  • Were you as prepared as you wanted to be?
  • What can you learn to feel more confident next time?

Maybe it’s creating a checklist or practicing a quick summary for each patient.
Turning feedback into a learning opportunity puts you back in control.

Learning changes frustration into growth.

Step 3: Break It Down

Here’s where you separate what’s real from what’s drama in your mind.

  1. What are the facts?
    (What exactly was said? What specifically happened?)
  2. What are your emotions about those facts?
    (Upset, ashamed, annoyed, embarrassed?)
  3. What thoughts are causing those emotions?
    (What are you making this mean about you?)

Example:
Feedback: “That IV placement took too long.”

  • Fact: It took a half hour.
  • Emotion: Frustrated, embarrassed.
  • Thought: “I’m so bad at this. I’ll never get better.”

Step 4: Challenge the Thought

Is that thought true?
How could the opposite be true?

Find evidence to support it.

Example:
Thought: “I’m terrible at placing IVs.”

Ask:

  • Is it really true? (No. Most of the time, I place them quickly and effectively.)
  • Could the opposite be true? (I’m learning. Everyone has off days. I’ve done this well many times before.)

Final Thoughts: Feedback Doesn’t Define You

Feedback is data. It’s information—not a judgment of your worth.

When you stop taking it personally and start handling it with grace, you stay in control.

  • You decide what’s worth keeping.
  • You decide what to improve.
  • You decide what to let go.

And here’s the magic: Feedback can actually help you grow when you allow it.

Are you ready to start handling feedback differently?
If you’re tired of spiraling every time someone shares a critique, let’s talk.
Book a complimentary consultation, and we’ll work on tools to help you feel confident, calm, and in control—no matter what’s said.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action. 

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Why Reinvent the Wheel When What You’ve Got Works Just Fine?

Stop Fixing What Isn’t Broken

How many times have you thought, This time it’ll be different?

You bought the fancy planner. You started that new workout routine. You even downloaded the latest app everyone’s talking about.

But here you are, weeks (or days) later, feeling like you’re right back where you started.

Sound familiar?

Here’s the thing: Your brain is wired to crave novelty. 

Neuroscience tells us that when you try something new, your brain lights up with a fresh hit of dopamine. It feels good in the moment. But novelty doesn’t equal better—and it doesn’t mean it’s solving your actual problem.

So why do we keep chasing it?

Examples:

  1. Calendars and Planners
    How many planners have you abandoned mid-year? Or mid-week? You start with one, then grab another because, let’s be honest, you’re convinced this one will finally make you organized.

Spoiler alert: It’s not the planner.

  1. Workouts
    You finally found a workout routine you like—or at least one that doesn’t make you miserable. But then you see someone on Instagram doing burpees on a Bosu ball, and suddenly you think, Should I be doing that?

Here’s an idea: Stick with what you’re already doing. Because the thing that works is the thing you’ll actually do.

The Real Question: Why Are You Switching?

Next time, before you jump to something new, stop and ask yourself:

  • What’s actually working for me right now?
  • Why do I feel the need to change?
  • Am I chasing the excitement of starting over?
  • Or am I avoiding something uncomfortable?

Spoiler alert: It’s usually the uncomfortable part.

Here’s the truth: The magic isn’t in finding something new. The magic is in staying consistent with what already works, even when it feels boring or hard.

When you stop chasing shiny new solutions and stick with what already works, a few amazing things happen:

  • You save yourself a ton of time (no more Googling “best planners for 2025”).
  • You actually get results because you’re consistent.
  • You feel more in control—because you’re no longer scrambling for answers.

And here’s the best part: You start to trust yourself again.

That’s what I help my clients with—figuring out what’s actually working, why they keep chasing new things, and how to make progress without reinventing the wheel every week.

You can save yourself time, energy, and frustration—and coaching with me can help you get there faster.

Are you ready to stop spinning your wheels and start building momentum?

Book a complimentary consultation with me today. We’ll talk about where you’re stuck, what’s already working, and how coaching can help you finally move forward.

Or, join me for my LAST free masterclass of 2024, How to Abstain, on 12/11/24 at 11 am via Zoom. It’s all about cutting through clutter and creating a life that works for you.

Let’s get you results. You don’t have to do this alone.

As part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions. 

Book a LOGAN HEALTH EMPLOYEE Life Coaching Session Here

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me.

Book a COMPLIMENTARY CONSULTATION Here

The LAST Free Monthly Masterclass for 2024 is on December 11, How to Abstain from over eating, over drinking, over scrolling, etc. Registration is required and you can do so here:

HOW TO ABSTAIN Masterclass

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Stuck in Survival Mode? Let’s Take Back Your Time

Ever feel like life is running you instead of the other way around?

The to-do list never ends. Your shifts are unpredictable. The kids need a ride from school, and somehow you’re supposed to squeeze in errands, grocery shopping, and maybe—just maybe—a little rest.

Sound familiar?

If you’re nodding along, here’s what you need to know: time management isn’t about waking up earlier or cramming more into your day. It’s about learning a process that works for you—one that helps you feel less stressed, more confident, and maybe even a little excited about your days.

And I’ve got a process that works.

This week, I’m breaking it all down in a series of IG Lives where I’ll show you exactly how to:

  1. Plan: Create a schedule that actually works for your life—even with chaos in the mix.
  2. Implement: Learn how to stop procrastinating, stay focused, and follow through (without constant self-bargaining over every task).
  3. Evaluate: Figure out what’s working, what’s not, and how to tweak your plan so it keeps working for you.

Here’s the kicker: I’m not just teaching this. I’m doing it with you.

Because even though I have time, I’m tired of wasting it on mental arguments with myself over errands, grocery shopping, and boring-but-important stuff. I want to become the person who actually does what they said they’d do—when they said they’d do it.

If that resonates with you, let’s do this together.

Join me for the IG Lives this week. The videos will stay up, so you can jump in anytime.
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Or, if you want one-on-one support to create a time management plan designed specifically for your life, book a free session with me below.

Your time is valuable. Let’s make sure you’re using it to create a life you actually love.

As part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions.

Book a LOGAN HEALTH EMPLOYEE Life Coaching Session Here

Or, if you are not a Logan Health Employee, you can book a consultation to learn how to work with me.

Book a COMPLIMENTARY CONSULTATION Here

The LAST Free Monthly Masterclass for 2024 is on December 11, How to Abstain from over eating, over drinking, over scrolling, etc. Registration is required and you can do so here:

HOW TO ABSTAIN MASTERCLASS

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3 Surprising Myths About Boundaries (and What They Really Mean for Your Relationships)

When we hear the word “boundaries,” it’s common to think of drawing a line, creating distance, or saying “no.” But true boundaries are so much more than limits—they’re about clarity, respect, and ultimately, connection. And yet, there are still many myths that keep people from setting healthy boundaries in their lives. Let’s clear up a few:

Myth #1: Boundaries Push People Away  

One of the biggest misunderstandings around boundaries is that they’re meant to keep people at arm’s length. But boundaries aren’t about building walls; they’re about setting guidelines that let others know where you stand. Clear boundaries allow you to show up authentically, which actually brings you *closer* to others by promoting trust and mutual respect.

Myth #2: Boundaries Are Rigid and Unchangeable  

Setting a boundary isn’t about locking yourself into one rule for life. Boundaries can evolve as you grow and as your relationships shift. The key is to set boundaries that feel right for *you* and adjust as needed. Think of them as guidelines rather than unbreakable rules.

Myth #3: Only Big Problems Require Boundaries  

Many people think boundaries are only necessary when there’s a major issue. But boundaries are powerful in our everyday interactions, too. They help us protect our time, energy, and well-being, whether it’s committing to 15 minutes of downtime or setting limits on work-related messages after hours. Even small boundaries can have a big impact on our mental and emotional health.

Ready to Start Setting Boundaries that Work?

Join me for my All About Boundaries Masterclass tomorrow at 11 AM MT via Zoom. We’ll break down the steps to create boundaries that feel true to you and explore how to honor them even when it’s tough. Can’t make it live? No worries—replays will be sent out to everyone who registers. [Link to register]

It’s time to leave the myths behind and start setting boundaries that help you thrive.

I look forward to seeing you there!

Register for All About Boundaries Here

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health, employees get free coaching sessions.

Book a LOGAN HEALTH EMPLOYEE Life Coaching Session Here
Everyone else… Book a COMPLIMENTARY CONSULTATION Here 🙂

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How to Live an Extraordinary Life (Yes, Even with Your Busy Schedule)

Does the idea of living an extraordinary life feel out of reach when you’re buried in work and the endless demands of healthcare? You’re not alone if it does. But here’s a little secret: an extraordinary life is not only possible—it’s closer than you think. There’s a process to get there, one step at a time, and it starts with learning how to manage your mind.

Managing your mind is all about how you handle stress, make tough choices, and feel confident about those decisions without second-guessing. It’s not a personality trait or something you’re born with; it’s a skill you can develop. And it’s this skill that can help you live life on your own terms, even within the intense world of healthcare.

Imagine going into each day feeling clear, confident, and ready for whatever comes your way. It’s more than just surviving the day-to-day—it’s a way of actively designing a life you love, even on the busiest days.

So, how can you get started with managing your mind? Here’s one powerful step:

Notice the Little Wins  

When you finish a difficult shift or handle a challenging patient with care and patience, recognize that as a win. Confidence doesn’t come in a flash; it’s built gradually, one brick at a time, through moments like these. Acknowledging these small victories builds your resilience and reminds you that you *are* in control.

By making a habit of celebrating these everyday successes, you’ll find yourself feeling more confident and at ease with life’s demands. It might feel small, but the benefits add up. And over time, this mental clarity and confidence become the foundation for a life you love—one you’re designing, not just letting happen.

Living an extraordinary life in healthcare isn’t about changing careers or dropping all your commitments. It’s about taking ownership of your mindset, finding clarity, and building confidence that sticks.

Ready to explore this further?  

Join me on November 13 for an online masterclass on Boundaries, where we’ll dive into strategies to build a life that fits you. Or, if you’re ready to take a deeper dive, stay tuned for a special offer designed to set you up for your best year yet. (Let me know if you want to be one of the first to know.)

Let’s make an extraordinary life your reality. Registration is required, click the link below to sign up.

SIGN UP: ALL ABOUT BOUNDARIES MASTERCLASS

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Four Types of Burnout: How to Spot Them and What to Do

Let’s be honest—burnout in healthcare is real. And it doesn’t show up the same way for everyone. Whether you’re caring for patients or managing a team, the daily grind can leave you feeling exhausted, stressed, and wondering if you’ve got anything left to give. The good news is—you’re not alone, and there’s a way through it.

Let’s talk about the four types of burnout that healthcare providers often face, how to spot them, and what you can do to start feeling better.

Emotional Burnout

What It Looks Like:
You know that feeling when you’re on your way to work and you’re already emotionally drained? That’s emotional burnout. Frustration is simmering just beneath the surface, and connecting with your patients or coworkers feels like a huge effort.

How to Spot It:

  • You’re emotionally exhausted before your shift even starts.
  • You’ve hit a wall when it comes to showing empathy.
  • You feel frustrated or irritated more often than not.

What to Do About It:
Take care of you first. Set some boundaries around how much you’re giving at work, and make sure you’re spending time on things that recharge your emotional tank, whether that’s journaling or even a quick walk outside.

Physical Burnout

What It Looks Like:
Ever feel like no amount of sleep is enough? Or that your body’s constantly aching, even when you haven’t done anything strenuous? Physical burnout is your body’s way of telling you it needs a break—and fast.

How to Spot It:

  • You’re always tired, no matter how much rest you get.
  • You’re catching every cold or bug going around.
  • Your body just feels… worn out.

What to Do About It:
Let’s start with the basics—sleep, hydration, water, and movement. I know it’s easier said than done, but your body needs it. Take mini breaks throughout the day, even if it’s just a few minutes to breathe or stretch. And when you’re off the clock, make time for low-impact activities that help you recharge physically.

Mental Burnout

What It Looks Like:
When you’ve been juggling a million decisions, and suddenly, your brain feels like it’s on strike. Mental burnout shows up as difficulty focusing, forgetfulness, and feeling like even small decisions are overwhelming.

How to Spot It:

  • You can’t concentrate, or you feel mentally foggy all the time.
  • You’re struggling to make even simple decisions.
  • You feel scattered and disorganized.

What to Do About It:
Slow down and take things one step at a time. Break up your tasks into smaller chunks and establish priorities. Writing things down can help clear your mental clutter and bring some clarity. And if you need to, give yourself time to pause.

Compassion Fatigue

What It Looks Like:
This one hits close to home for a lot of us in healthcare. Compassion fatigue is when you’ve given and given, and there’s just nothing left. You still care about your patients or your team, but showing that empathy feels almost impossible.

How to Spot It:

  • You feel detached or emotionally distant from those you’re helping.
  • Helping others no longer feels fulfilling.
  • You’re emotionally numb, like you’re running on empty.

What to Do About It:
Take time to reconnect with why you got into healthcare in the first place. Lean on your team for support when you need it, and don’t be afraid to step away emotionally when a situation is too draining. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so give yourself the space to refill it.

Moving Forward: Burnout Isn’t Permanent

Here’s the thing—burnout, in any of its forms, doesn’t have to be permanent. You can feel better. The first step is recognizing what type of burnout you’re experiencing and then taking small steps toward recovery. Remember, you don’t have to do this alone.

I specialize in helping people like you find balance, manage stress, and rebuild confidence. If you’re feeling burned out, let’s chat. You can book a complimentary, no-obligation consultation here.

Logan Health employees receive complimentary coaching, and I’d love to support you in getting back to a place where you feel energized and fulfilled at work and in life.

Take a small step today. Let’s work together to beat burnout and bring more balance back into your life.

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This IS the Journey

I used to be the woman constantly running—dropping Tara off at school, juggling work, soccer, ski lessons, and home (all with a supportive and helpful husband) while trying to squeeze everything into a 24-hour day that never felt long enough. I gave everything I had—my energy, my love, my time—to everyone else, including my family, my job, and my friends. And whenever I tried to carve out a little space for myself, it felt impossible, like there wasn’t enough time.

I looked at other women and wondered how they had it all figured out. They seemed to be doing something that I was missing. I felt like I was failing, like something was wrong with me because I couldn’t seem to crack the code. And I was exhausted from trying.

But here’s what I learned: nothing had gone wrong, and nothing was wrong with me. The only real difference between me and those other women? They believed they could figure it out, so they kept trying. They didn’t have some secret formula or hidden knowledge that I didn’t. They were just doing life—just like me.

They experimented with different routines, schedules, and ideas. When things didn’t work out, they didn’t label it as a failure. They saw it as part of the process and kept moving forward, adjusting as they went.

Once I realized that, I stopped believing everyone else had it figured out while I didn’t. I started making small changes and gave myself permission to let it be messy. I stopped trying to cram everything into a perfect 24-hour container and started focusing on what worked for me. I saw that I was not failing at life. I was living it. This was the process; it was the journey.

And I want you to know that if this resonates with you, I can help you go from feeling overwhelmed and exhausted to feeling more in control. Together, we’ll focus on practical strategies for managing your time, prioritizing what matters to you, and making small, meaningful changes. You don’t have to figure it out alone. I’ll be there to support you as you find what works so that you can live a life you truly love.

If you want an easy way to come and see what I’m all about, join the How to Manage Your Time Masterclass on Wednesday, September 11, at 11 AM. Registration is required, and you can do so here.

I’ll be there waiting for you with open arms. I’ve got you. 💕💕

P.S. Reminder: Employees get free coaching sessions as part of Logan Health’s benefits. You can book a coaching session here.

P.P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you how to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action.

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emotional responsibility

This week at Christine Seager Coaching, we’re focusing on emotional responsibility—allowing others to own their thoughts and feelings while reclaiming control over our own. It’s a mindset shift that empowers us to manage our emotional experience, no matter the circumstances.

As healthcare professionals, you know that emotions can run high in stressful environments. But did you know that you hold the power to decide how you respond? When we blame others for our frustration, sadness, or disappointment, we unknowingly hand over our emotional power. But what if we could reclaim it?

From a young age, we’re often taught that others are responsible for our feelings. When someone says something hurtful, we believe that pain is their doing. But as adults, we have the ability to reflect, choose our thoughts, and ultimately, decide how we want to feel.

Imagine approaching your day knowing that your emotions are within your control—not dictated by your boss, patients, or colleagues. How empowering would it be to realize that frustration or disappointment isn’t caused by outside forces, but by how we choose to interpret those forces?

By accepting responsibility for our feelings, we open the door to true emotional freedom. Instead of reacting on autopilot or avoiding discomfort, we can choose how we want to feel. The result? We start living a life of intention, rather than default.

Try this: The next time you feel frustration or stress in the workplace, pause and ask yourself, ‘What am I thinking right now that’s creating this feeling? And do I want to keep thinking this way?’ Shifting your mindset from blame to ownership can be transformative.

You have the power to take charge of your emotional experience.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health Whitefish, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book a coaching session here. 

P.S. Liked what you read? Join my email list, where I dive deeper into these concepts and teach you HOW to put them into practice in your everyday life. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram (@christineseager_) or Facebook (@seager.christine), where I share both teaching moments and real-life examples of this work in action.

P.P.S. You can register for the next free Christine Seager Coaching Masterclass on What to Do When You’re Not Getting Results by clicking here. 

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The Difference Between & Solutions for Burnout & Overwhelm

Burnout is defined as a person in a state of physical or mental collapse caused by overwork or stress. 

It happens when you are producing results– like your hair is on fire, but you’re pushing through it, still working, still doing. It might look like things are fine, but you’re slowly dying on the inside. 

People think this happens when we work too many hours or too hard, but not necessarily. You can work many hours and still not get burned out, and you can work very hard and not get burned out. It’s the thoughts behind it, the attitude that leads to burnout. 

When I worked in the ER, I likened this to the difference between a busy day and a cluster eff day. We could see 60 patients in a 12-hour shift, and things could go smoothly, like clockwork, or we could see 30 patients in 12 hours & it could be a cluster— a big difference. In either case, everything could go sideways, but you can think: this always happens to me. Or you can think: this is what happens in a busy ER; this is just part of the deal. This is what I signed up for. 

Burnout happens when you’re trying to outrun a negative emotion. 

The solution is to give yourself more space. Relax, slow down, and be more intentional with your actions. Work smarter, not harder. Rest, take a break if you can. Manage your mind. Purposefully direct it to better thoughts. 

For example: 

  • I signed up for this when I took this job. 
  • People are out enjoying the nice weather; of course, there are a lot of injuries now. 
  • Tourists are also trying to enjoy the outdoors. Sometimes, they don’t know what they’re doing and make poor decisions, which can be costly—both physically and financially. 
  • I’m glad they’re here, and I’m equipped to help them. 

Overwhelm is defined as being overcome completely; to overpower, especially with superior force, to cover or bury beneath a mass of something.

Overwhelm happens when you are not producing results, like when your hair is on fire and you’re running around in circles.

It’s an emotion, a way for your brain to stay comfortable because when we feel overwhelmed, we often resist, react, or distract (aka. do nothing; take no action; spin our wheels). 

The good news is— because it is an emotion, you have control over it. Since you are creating it, you can change and manage your overwhelm. 

Overwhelm looks like feeling confused about what to do (how to get started or what to do next). You might have an unclear plan and procrastinate, thinking, “I don’t know what to do; I’m just so busy.” 

But it doesn’t have anything to do with your to-do list. It has to do with the thoughts in your brain about how overwhelmed you feel. You’re likely spending more time thinking overwhelming thoughts than actually doing things or taking action. (Also, notice that if you have a to-do list, then you actually know what to do, so check your list.) 

You can tell this is you because you see that you haven’t actually done much. You’re spinning, not creating. 

The solution is to plan and then do; take action. Make decisions: Pick one thing and do it, then the next, and the next. Constrain to doing one thing at a time, not all of the things at once. Take intentional action and get things done. All while managing your mind—not letting it run amok, thinking overwhelming thoughts, and creating the feeling of overwhelm. 

Knowing the difference between burnout and overwhelm will help you determine solutions to mitigate each in your life so that you can create and live a life you love rather than just going through the motions.

What are your thoughts? What are your questions? What would you love to learn more about here? Leave your comments below.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health Whitefish, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book an in-person coaching session here or a remote/Zoom coaching session here. 

You can register for the next free Christine Seager Coaching Masterclass on How to Change Your Self-Concept by registering here.

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jealousy

Jealousy often gets a bad rap. It’s usually seen as a negative emotion that breeds resentment and unhappiness. But what if we could flip the script on jealousy and view it as an indicator of our own desires and aspirations? Instead of letting envy fester, we can use it as a catalyst for personal and professional growth. Here’s how this unconventional take on jealousy could play out in your life.


Imagine you’re a nurse who feels jealous of a colleague who recently received a promotion to a managerial position. Instead of stewing in resentment, recognize that this jealousy is highlighting your own desire for career advancement. You want to be recognized for your hard work and dedication, too. Use this realization as motivation to seek out leadership training, take on more responsibilities, or speak with your supervisor about your career goals. By doing so, you can position yourself for future promotions and achieve the professional success you crave.


If you are a physician, you may feel envious of a fellow doctor who perfectly balances their demanding job with a vibrant personal life, including ample family time and engaging hobbies. This jealousy reveals your own yearning for a better work-life balance. Start by assessing your current schedule and identifying areas where you can delegate tasks or streamline processes. Prioritize self-care and set boundaries to ensure you have time for personal interests and family. By making these changes, you can enjoy a more fulfilling and balanced life.


Perhaps you’re a medical technician who feels jealous of another technician with specialized skills that lead to more interesting assignments and higher pay. This envy is simply your inner voice telling you that you want to develop your own expertise. Look for opportunities to attend workshops, earn certifications, or take advanced courses in your field. By enhancing your skills, you’ll open doors to exciting assignments and greater recognition.


As a healthcare assistant, you might envy a colleague attending a prestigious continuing education program or medical school. This jealousy points to your own aspirations for further education and career advancement. Research educational opportunities that align with your interests and goals, and take steps to apply for programs or scholarships. Investing in your education will pave the way for a brighter and more rewarding future.


Imagine you’re a junior doctor feeling jealous of an experienced doctor who has a strong rapport with patients and is often requested by name. This envy indicates your desire to build similar relationships with your patients. Focus on developing your communication skills and empathy. Take time to listen to your patients and understand their concerns. By doing so, you’ll build trust and rapport, becoming a beloved and respected doctor in your own right.


If you’re a healthcare researcher feeling envious of a peer who frequently publishes in high-impact journals and is invited to speak at conferences, this jealousy highlights your ambition for academic recognition. Channel this energy into your own research projects. Collaborate with colleagues, seek mentorship, and dedicate time to writing and submitting your work for publication. By committing to your research, you’ll gain recognition and make significant contributions to medical knowledge.

The key to transforming jealousy into action is to recognize it as a signal of your own desires. Once you’ve identified what you want, take proactive steps to achieve it.

  1. Assess: Reflect on what specifically triggers your jealousy. What does this person have that you want?
  2. Plan: Define what achieving this desire looks like for you. Set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals.
  3. Implement: Develop a plan to work towards your goals. This might include seeking additional training, networking, or making lifestyle changes.
  4. Commit: Remember that achieving your dreams takes time and effort. Stay committed to your goals, and be patient with yourself.

By turning jealousy into a driving force for positive change, you’ll not only make your dreams come true but also experience additional benefits:

You’ll feel more energized as you work towards your goals.
Your self-improvement will help you grow personally and professionally.
Achieving your desires will lead to a greater sense of fulfillment and happiness.
Focusing on your own growth rather than comparing (and despairing) yourself with others can lead to healthier and more positive relationships.
You can inspire those around you to pursue their own dreams and aspirations.

Jealousy does not have to be a problem. Instead, you can view it as a powerful indicator of what you want in life. By recognizing and acting on these desires, you can transform envy into action and create a fulfilling and successful life.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health Whitefish, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book an in-person coaching session here or a remote/Zoom coaching session here. 

P.P.S. You can register for the next free Christine Seager Coaching Masterclass on How to Change Your Self-Concept by registering here.