Author: Christine Seager

No one is going to decide for you.

So, you might as well learn how to decide for yourself now, and the sooner, the better.

You can poll all your friends.

Ask your spouse.

Confer with your mentor.

But they can’t decide for you.

They aren’t you.

Even with your best intentions at heart, they won’t experience the outcome of your decisions the same way.

Tough love truth: it comes down to you.

So, what do you want?

Which decision feels more like FEAR, and which feels more like LOVE?

What route helps you feel expansive, rejuvenated, or euphoric?

And if you can’t get to that–

Which feels thrilling & terrifying?

I know that when I’m thrilled and terrified, I’m in the exact right place—despite being uncomfortable.

Often, the best decision is not comfortable.

But comfortable equals boring, too.

Similar to: it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all; it’s better to be thrilled and terrified than not be thrilled and terrified at all.

Here’s the thing: the sooner you make a decision, the sooner you can implement it, and the sooner you can make that decision be the best decision.

You will NOT die.

You WILL learn.

If you want to learn a process for how to make empowered decisions, join me this Wednesday, April 17, at 6 PM MT for the next (FREE) CSC Masterclass. You can register right here:

https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_zVWZVyepSVGGsndkPFd-dQ

Alex Hormozi said, “If you want to see who has the most control over your life… just look at who you blame.”

Ouch.

So much truth in this.

It’s so much easier to put the blame elsewhere,

Rather than face the cold, hard truth–

(And I say this with all the love in the world)

That it’s you.

You are to blame.

So often, we think our fate lies in the hands of others.

We give all of that power away.

But it’s you.

You have the control.

The power lies with you.

You have the ability to make a change.

And every moment that you are not changing….

Is a moment that you are choosing the exact same results.

Staying small.

Staying safe.

Not taking any risks.

Not learning.

Not growing.

Not taking any action.

Not creating any data from which to learn.

This surely is the harder path.

The one where you see that it’s on you.

But it’s the path that creates results.

Radical ownership is when you see that– 

It lies with you.

Your life.

Your business.

Your relationships.

Your happiness.

The only question that remains is:

Are you willing to do what it takes?

And the only way you will know is by trying.

You take action.

Have data.

Analyze the data.

See if you’ve created the results you want.

If not, you try something else.

Then

Wash.

Rinse.

Repeat.

If you want to see who has the most control over your life,

Look no further than yourself.

If you’d like to learn more about radical ownership to have the power & control to create the results you want in life, I can help you.

Do you take your dreams seriously?

Or do you half-ass any steps you take toward them?

You think about applying for your master’s, but talk yourself out of it.

You dream about working abroad but don’t think it’s possible, so you don’t pursue it.

You really, really want to go on that big trip, but it seems like such a pipe dream that you discount it before you even consider how it could be feasible.

I invite you to dream again.

But this time, take your dreams seriously.

Learn to level up.

Show up for yourself.

Commit to work towards what you want.

Your dreams certainly will not become reality if you don’t think they are possible, but I assure you they are.

Start breaking down how they could become a reality and get to work.

Living a life you love will be worth every step you take to get there.

If you want help breaking down how to achieve your dreams, I can help you. I support my clients in having, doing, being, or achieving anything they want. Let me help you create the life of your dreams. Book a consult here.

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health Whitefish, employees get free coaching sessions. You can book an in-person coaching session here or a remote/Zoom coaching session here. Let me help you create the life of your dreams.

One of the most profound things I learned through my journalling allowed me to put down so much fear & anxiety; it absolutely freed me.

I never worried about that situation again. Ever.

I’m an avid journaler.

Through writing, I’ve learned a lot.

And I believe we can empower ourselves and gain clarity by answering our own questions.

So, what’s one question that’s been bothering you?

How much time, energy & effort do you spend thinking about it?

You may have a decision to make, some confusion to clear up, or a problem to work out.

I challenge you today to answer it for yourself.

Write it out.

Get all of your thoughts out, all of your questions, and answer them one by one.

If you’re not used to writing, just try it–

See what comes up for you.

And I’ll share a few pro tips:

Create a safe space for yourself. This is just an experiment to see what you can work out on your own.

Try not to judge yourself. No one says you must follow through with anything; you can decide that later. For now, just write it out.

If you’re worried that someone will find it– tear it up & throw it away as soon as you’re done writing.

If more questions come up, answer those questions, too.

If you’re worried it will take too long, set a time for as much as you want to spend on it. When the timer goes off, you can decide if you want to keep writing or not.

Journaling has had a profound impact on my life.

The ability to get my thoughts out on paper, where I can look at them objectively and then decide what (if anything) to do about them.

Seriously, it’s priceless.

Are you a journaler? What has been your experience?

If this is your first time, how did it go?

If this is interesting to you & you’d like to learn more, I am an open-book—

Ask away or reach out.

I’m happy to share.

Discomfort vs. your phone: your phone will win every time.

Are you someone who often and randomly finds your phone in your hand?

Scrolling is often a form of avoidance.

But if you want to create and live a life you love, just consider– 

Is this how you WANT to spend your time?

If not, first, look at what you might be avoiding.

You can do this by asking yourself: 

What would I be doing if I wasn’t on my phone right now? 

And what emotion would I be feeling? 

For example: 

Maybe no one invited you to hang out, and you feel lonely.

Maybe you have work to do but don’t know what to do next & feel stupid.

Maybe you haven’t called your mom in a while, so you feel bad.

Figuring out the thought you are thinking, the thought that’s just BEFORE you pick up your phone to scroll, the one that has you scrolling instead of doing something uncomfortable, empowers you to make conscious & intentional decisions.

Is this how you want to live your life?

If not, break down that thought and decide to take action anyway.

You can invite people to hang out.

At work, give your best guess as to what to do next & do it, or determine how you can figure it out. 

As soon as you think to call your mom, call her– right now!

Not all mindless scrolling is bad, but I want you to be aware of how you spend your time and make sure it’s aligned with what is truly most important to you. 

You only have so much time here on this earth. 

How do you WANT to spend it?

This is how you create & live a life you love.

If you want support to spend less time on your phone or screens, I can help.

There are a few ways you can work with me, but the first step is to book a

• complimentary, no-obligation consultation here.

Last thing: get in early and register for the next free monthly Christine Seager Coaching Masterclass on How to Create More Fun by registering here.

Are you someone who is a caretaker for a loved one? If so, this one is for you. 

You well know this can be a very challenging situation. There are so many emotions involved:

Fear of the unknown, pending loss, emotional & financial strain. 

Overwhelmed by the responsibilities involved, and then additional guilt for feeling overwhelmed.

Resentment that you’re in this situation in the first place. 

You’re likely sad about the pain & suffering your loved one is enduring. 

Angry at the unfairness of it all, 

Powerless to do much about it, 

Anxious about your future, 

And lonely because as much as they try, no one else understands or ‘gets it.’ 

And again, there’s a constant undercurrent of resentment- that these were the cards you were dealt, this is your lot in life. 

No wonder you withdraw from others, avoid discussing what’s happening & are exhausted, especially if you think you need to be strong for everyone else. 

Beyond stressed, heading nose-first into burnout, you’re just waiting to snap & really lose it any second now. 

But where you choose to focus will help you feel better. 

If you want to feel empowered, look to see what you can control, what choices you have agency over, even if it’s your own health & well-being. 

If you want to feel gratitude, look for the little things to be grateful for, spend some time in that gratitude, and soak it in (similar to how a sponge absorbs water).

If you want to feel courage, focus on the brave things you’re doing right now. 

If you want to feel joy, focus on the present moment & find joy in little things- the sun’s rays shining through the window or the sound of Robin’s chirping. 

These better-feeling emotions don’t change the circumstances of your loved one’s illness, but they will help you to feel better and more empowered while you navigate these challenges. 

If you want to learn how to feel better, even while facing difficult life circumstances, I can help you– book a consultation to discuss how. 

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health Whitefish employees get free coaching sessions. You can book an in-person coaching session here or a remote/Zoom coaching session here. 

Here’s a little story for you about “Jane.” Of course, all names have been changed to protect the innocent. 😉

At 42, Jane found herself navigating the complexities of being a mother. The weight of concerns about her daughter’s future and the demands of her Monday-to-Friday 9-5 management job often left her feeling overwhelmed. Jane grappled with persistent negative self-talk, second-guessing her decisions, and seeking validation from others.

In her management role, Jane often doubted her capabilities. She hesitated to take on new responsibilities, fearing failure and questioning her competency. Personal and professional boundaries blurred, as she believed success required constant sacrifices.

The strains extended to her relationships, and her marriage occasionally took a backseat to the demands of her job. Financial aspirations fueled her drive, but doubts lingered about her ability to climb the corporate ladder. Jane’s love for reading and outdoor activities felt like distant pastimes, overshadowed by the constant need for external validation.

Vacations were rare, and even during these breaks, Jane found it challenging to detach herself from work-related worries, eroding the joy she could have experienced.

Determined to make a change, Jane embarked on a journey to cultivate self-trust. She actively worked on reducing negative self-talk and embracing her capabilities in practical ways.

In her parenting role, Jane’s self-trust translated into confident decision-making for her daughter’s future. Instead of worrying incessantly, she actively guided her daughter with assurance, trusting that her advice was valuable. Jane’s confidence became a source of inspiration, fostering resilience in her daughter.

In her management job, Jane’s self-trust is exemplified by her ability to take on new challenges. She stepped into leadership roles, confidently making decisions and advocating for her ideas. Her increased self-assurance impacted her professional growth and contributed to a healthier work-life balance.

Her relationships flourished as Jane prioritized herself, becoming a more fulfilled partner and mother. Financially, she observed tangible progress in her career, climbing the corporate ladder confidently.

Leisure activities became true sources of joy. Jane’s days outdoors became deliberate acts of self-care. Traveling, once riddled with worries, transformed into cherished adventures as she learned to trust that she had earned those moments of relaxation.

Jane’s life after learning self-trust is a pragmatic tale of empowerment, where tangible actions and confident choices contribute to her overall well-being. The story emphasizes the importance of trusting oneself in real, everyday scenarios, leading to positive changes in various aspects of life.

Building self-trust can tremendously impact various aspects of our lives, including our relationships, careers, and overall well-being. By cultivating self-trust, we can make confident decisions, take on new challenges, and prioritize our needs, leading to a more fulfilling and empowered life.

If you want to learn more about How to Build Self-trust, I’m offering a free monthly masterclass on 1/31/24 at 11 AM MT via Zoom. In this class, you’ll learn practical tips and strategies for cultivating self-trust and making confident choices in your everyday life.

Registration is required, but the class is free. To sign up, click this link https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_zpLYmexETc6gmU_O0fcidQ.

I’ll see you there!

Reminder: as part of the benefits offered at Logan Health Whitefish employees get free coaching sessions. You can book an in-person coaching session here or a remote/Zoom coaching session here.