Author: Christine Seager

Fairy tales can come true; it can happen to you if you…

look for how it might ALREADY be true.  

Not what you were expecting, right? 

Let me explain. 

Three times this past week, I coached clients who were already living their dreams, 

But they didn’t even see it. 

Example #1: This client wanted to spend at least one month each spring traveling. This spring, she is taking two two-week vacations- two weeks in March and two weeks in May. Last I checked, 2+2= 4, and there are 4-weeks in a month, so she will be traveling for a month this spring. She didn’t realize she was ALREADY living her dream because it wasn’t four consecutive weeks. [It’s me, this example is me.]

Example #2: This client wants to pursue two different careers. One will provide a steady income, and one is her love and passion. She didn’t see that she had ALREADY achieved her dream because she had just spent an entire week devoted to her passion project while maintaining her business successfully.  

Example #3: She thought it would be cool to get paid to travel for work. She was hired for a job in a different town, too far to drive, so she stayed in a hotel overnight. They paid her fee. She didn’t realize that she had ALREADY achieved this dream because she hadn’t pieced it together. Work + hotel in a different town + payment = getting paid to travel for work. 

Y’all, our brains are tricky. Be on to them! You have to direct your mind to where you want it to focus. And this isn’t manifesting or making this up out of thin air. This is legit- we were already doing the things. s

I can speak for myself: I was too busy spending time in lack, feeling like it would never happen. Worrying about where the money would come from—wondering how I could make it be so. 

Fairy tales can come true… it can happen to you… maybe you just have to open your mind & see that it’s already happening. 

Just imagine what would be possible for your life if you were willing to be uncomfortable.

We all have that negativity bias. Our brains need to conserve energy, so it looks for the easiest & most repetitive ways to do things. This is why anything new or different feels so scary but imagine all the things that would be possible for you if you were willing to be uncomfortable.

You could take risks and live an extraordinary life.
You could meet people and make amazing friends.
You could boldly put yourself out into the world- talking to people, telling them you’re a life coach, and making offers to help them… for example. 😉

How many more clients might you have, how many more customers could you serve, and how many people could you help if you were just willing to be uncomfortable and move past that initial fear and worry?

Be willing to be uncomfortable.

Don’t allow yourself to stop yourself before you even get started.

Everything you need you already have within you.

The love and desire to do the thing.
The courage to take action.
The adventure and fun to love the results.

There is no need to seek outside of you.

Just trust.
Choose to believe.
Keep going.

We think there is only one “right” way, but we don’t know what it is. 
We see others having the success we want, but we don’t know how. 
We wonder what they know that we don’t. 
We wonder what we’re missing. 
We wonder why they have “it,” and we don’t. 
We sit, maybe feeling sorry for ourselves, taking no action because it all feels so obscure. 

But here’s the truth. 

What works for them might not work for you. 
You won’t know until you try it. 

What works for you might not work for them, either. 
You won’t know until you try it. 

Be willing to try. 
Be willing to trust. 
Be willing to jump in with both feet. 

No action will keep you right where you are, and 
you were meant for more than this.

Let’s talk about confidence. 

Whenever you do something new or different, your confidence is at “risk.” Your fears, doubts, and worries pop up, and the chatter you hear in your mind gets louder; the more significant the change, the louder the chatter. 

Start by reminding yourself of a few things: Why do you want this change in the first place? What prompted it? What are the benefits? Why do you love this new thing? 

Then, identify the worries and fears. Write them out, one by one. Consider: is it true, or does it just feel that way? What are the facts about each worry- provable in the court of law? 

Lastly, write a list of what you do know. Have you seen the quote, “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can,” by Arthur Ashe? Where are you? What do you have? What can you do? Set a timer if you need it, and get creative. Write a list of all of the things that you do know. And remember, it’s fine to start small. You don’t need to have all the answers, just be willing to take the next step.

In just a few minutes, you will see that there are options; indeed, there is something that you can do. And once you see what you know, you’ll find that shift in your confidence. 

Failure requires an endpoint against which to measure- otherwise, how would you know if or when you failed? 

And possibilities are infinite- there is no end to the possibilities that could exist. 

Therefore, failure is not possible- there’s no endpoint against which to measure because the possibilities for you/ for your life, are infinite.

We’re always saying yes to something, even if it’s just scrolling on our phones mindlessly for hours. Whether we’re fully aware of it or not, how we spend our time is what we’ve chosen to say YES to.

But the BIGGER YES is when we live in alignment with what is most important to us. 

Do you want to be mindlessly scrolling, or would you rather be present to life? 

Do you want to be mindlessly scrolling, or would you rather be cultivating meaningful relationships with people, even if just online? 

Do you want to be mindlessly scrolling, or would you rather observe, learn, and get to the heart of what matters?

When you are willing to be PRESENT- you are present to life and all that goes on around you. 

When you are willing to be SUPPORTIVE, TRUTHFUL, or VULNERABLE- you cultivate meaningful relationships with people, even just online. 

And when you are willing to be COMPASSIONATE, OPEN, or RECEPTIVE- you observe, learn, and clearly see what is at the heart of what matters. 

Be willing to, and you will be.

When was the last time you did something for the first time? 

This past March, my mom went to Europe for the first time, and I was there for it. My greatest joy was watching her ooohing and aaahing at all the sites, and she discovered she LOVES gelato! 

#onceinalifetimetrip #orisit

(Also, making my mom smile & laugh is one of my favorite things. I’m so glad I caught a picture of this.)

When you see possibility, 
And then do that which seemed impossible
Your brain says, “Huh, I wonder what else is possible.” 

Everything. 
Everything is possible. 

You don’t have to know how or when, 
just know 

It is possible. 

Believe.
Then do.
And you will achieve.

Do you want a quick and easy way to make a connection with others? They will pay more attention to you, better remember what you say and do, and it only takes 3-5 seconds… make eye contact.

Eye contact increases your bond with others, displays honesty, builds trust and increases understanding. As a result, others feel more empathy, are more self-aware and feel safer being honest with you.

In her book, Stroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor, Jill shares how after her stroke, she could easily sense the people who were there to care for & help her or those who were just ‘going through the motions.’ She said, “I needed them to look me in the eye… to just bring their hope and their energy to me, as opposed to taking energy away. It was all I had at that moment.”

As healthcare providers, our own energy reserves are low, and it can be challenging to share the little energy we have. But in only a few seconds, we can contribute to others, and of course, that goodness comes back to us, filling us up. Imagine how good it feels to be both the giver and the receiver of safety, honesty, trust, and understanding- or just try it for yourself.