One of my favorite parts of coaching is being a product of my product, but listen- it isn’t always easy.
I had a huge vulnerability hangover after my talk did not go as well as planned on Saturday. Immediately after, I felt like garbage. I even snapped at my mom, who did not deserve that (sorry, mom).
What did I do? I got back up, and I brushed myself off.
First, I got support:
I called my husband and bawled my eyes out. He made me feel much better. Thank you, Scott; I love you so much.
Then, I reminded myself:
It’s done. There is no need to waste time going over it again and again.
Why do I do these talks in the first place? What is my purpose?
Next, I learned:
What did I do well?
What could I do better?
What can I do for MYSELF to learn to come from a better place?
What can I do for my CLIENTS to serve them better now that I’ve had this experience?
Finally, because I knew I was not alone, I listened to an expert: Ms. Brené Brown. I remembered hearing her talk about her vulnerability hangover after one of her TEDTalks, on her Netflix special, Call to Courage. I watched the whole thing over again. Some nuggets:
“For connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.” I no longer care what people think about me, nor am I afraid to show up as myself because I know that my opinion is the most important one.
“Show me an act of courage without uncertainty, risk, or emotional exposure.” You can bet your bootie that I’m not going to let one, or 5, or 10 “not so great” talks keep me from helping others create more ease and grace in their lives.
And lastly, from her daughter Ellen:
“That sucked, but I was brave, and I won.”
