How often do you find yourself thinking or saying, “I don’t know,” or “I’m not sure”?
Beware! It’s just a ploy from your brain to keep you in inaction, preventing you from moving toward your goal.
For example, regarding your career, you might think:
• I don’t know if this is what I want to do.
• I don’t know what I would do differently.
• I don’t know what else I even could do.
We could substitute “I’m not sure” for any of those examples, but I’ll give you a few more.
• I’m not sure this is for me.
• I’m not sure this is the right thing.
• I’m not sure how I wound up here.
• I’m not sure if I want to make a change.
• I’m not even sure where to start.
You feel confused or stuck, so there you sit in your continued confusion, continued stuckness.
Wash, rinse, repeat this negative cycle, or maybe you even make a few moves, some small changes, but then you get stuck &/or confused again & you’re back in the negative cycle.
Instead of believing that you don’t know, try answering these questions for yourself,
• “But what if I did know?”
• “What do I think my answer would be?”
• “What could my answer be?”
• “What do I think my answer is?”
Take the pressure off, landing on the “exact right answer right now,”
Just explore & see what comes up for you.
When I was leaving my nursing supervisor position, every day, I walked past my friend’s office & told her about a new job idea, something different every day. (I was still figuring out what I wanted to do next, and staying in “I don’t know/ I’m not sure” would never lead to a new career.)
• teaching paddle boarding
• driving people over Going to the Sun Road
• opening a flower shop
• opening a bookstore
• managing AirBnBs
• concierge (medical or personal)
• leading all women’s tour groups
It was so much fun.
It made me more creative.
I brainstormed and paid attention to see how these ideas felt to determine if any truly interested me.
Usually, we laughed at the ridiculousness, but a few actually stuck.
Don’t believe the hype!!
Be onto your brain & the BS it’s offering you.
Don’t believe that you don’t know.
You DO know.
You just need to look around a bit, don’t judge yourself, create safety, and be willing to get creative (and ridiculous, if that’s what it takes) to see what comes up for you.
If you’d like help to get unstuck to break the cycle of unknowing, I can help; I’ve truly done this work myself. Believe me– I have been there and can help you, too.
Do I have all of the answers at all times? For sure, no.
But I have created a safe & nonjudgemental environment within myself.
And I do know how to get unstuck.
I know how to conjure up the courage to try new things.
I know where to focus my brain,
how to find evidence of beliefs to support me,
and how to move past my self-limiting beliefs.
If you’d like help, have a little courage, too, to reach out & message me or just go ahead and book a consult. I know the first step isn’t always easy, but if this resonates with you, I assure you that you are in the right place, and I can help you. I’ll teach you some things, we’ll coach & we will get there together.
And this is exactly how you create & live a life you love.
