Today I want to talk about a straightforward coaching concept with two parts.
- Define it.
- According to whom?
Let’s discuss.
You want to be more CONFIDENT.
What does confidence mean?
“A feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.”
According to whom?
You; it says right there- one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.
So, you get to define confidence for yourself.
Let’s take another:
WORTHY– having adequate or great merit, character, or value.
Adequate or great merit, character, or value- according to whom?
Who gauges what adequate or great merit, character, or value is?
Who says this is adequate or great, but this is not?
Who is the authority?
[Hint: it’s you; you get to decide.]
How about one of my favorites, PERFECT, as we try to do with our beloved perfectionism?
What does perfect even mean? Let’s see.
“Having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.”
According to whom?
Who decides the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics of something (or someone)?
And even if someone does have an opinion on this, who says they are right? (Who died and made them king?)
OK, last one, ENOUGH.
Define: “as much or as many as required.”
That’s quite vague.
Enough of what?
How much is required?
And (you’ve got it now), according to whom?
It’s YOU; you get to decide for yourself.
You get to decide if you appreciate your own abilities or qualities.
You get to decide if you have adequate or great merit, character, or value.
You get to decide if something has all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; if it’s as good as it is possible to be.
You get to decide if something has as much or as many as required.
You even get to define what is required!
I invite you to figure this out for yourself.
Get clear. Define each of these for you.
See what you come up with.
Decide if you hit the mark or not.
Decide if it matters if you hit that mark or not,
And see what you can do differently to get there if that is indeed what you want.
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