Establish one specific, measurable, and timely goal.
Notice I don’t say achievable because I want you to go big.
Having a goal you think is impossible is okay if you don’t beat yourself up on your way to achieving it.
And if you go bigger than you think is possible, you’re less likely to hold yourself back and more likely to achieve more.
Focus on that one goal.
What are the actions you need to take? Again, be very specific. Write all the steps and as many micro-steps as possible, then make them chronological.
Now you have a clear starting point, and you can get going.
As you begin to act, your brain will offer negative thoughts and feelings.
The next step is to allow these negative feelings.
How?
Notice that they are there. Determine where in your body. Describe them in detail (color, shape, weight, movement, waveform, etc.). Remind yourself that you have thus not died from feeling a negative emotion.
Then decide how you would rather feel about the action you are taking. Reminder: feelings are one-word vibrations in your body.
What thoughts, when you think them, create that feeling for you?
If this is hard, please know that it’s a practice. And let’s find evidence for how you want to feel.
Think of another time you feel the way you want to.
What thoughts create that feeling for you?
Borrow from there and apply those thoughts here.
Practice those thoughts over and over.
Keep taking action and thinking those thoughts.
Evaluate your results.
Correct course when needed.
Wash, rinse, repeat.
When your first goal becomes a habit, when it’s easy to do, start working on your next goal.
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