What would it be like if you had 100% responsibility over your own life?
Amazing, right?
News flash. You do.
The only things you HAVE to do to survive are: eat, drink, and go to the bathroom. That’s it. Everything else is optional. Really. Think about that. Everything else is optional. This means everything else is a choice that you have made.
There might be uncomfortable outcomes if you make some decisions over others, but it is still your choice.
If you don’t like your job, but you aren’t making moves to get a new or different one, you are choosing that same job every day.
If you don’t like your relationship, and you want it to change, but you’re not having conversations with your spouse or seeking help, you are choosing that same relationship every day.
If you don’t like that you are so busy running your kids to school and sports and making dinners, feeling and cleaning up after everyone every day, but you are not making changes, you are choosing to stay that busy every day.
So what if you stopped blaming other people and other circumstances for your quality of life? What if you took full responsibility? What might that look like?
It might be setting some boundaries & sticking to them. I.E., each child can pick two sports to pursue and no more.
It might be tag teaming school drop offs & pickups with another family or having the kids take the bus. You might have to get creative.
It might be changing at work- moving departments or positions or applying elsewhere.
It might be picking up the phone and asking for help/ support for your relationship.
There are always options. I didn’t know this for a long time, either, and it kept me feeling stuck, helpless, and not in control of my own life. I was powerless when looking to and blaming others for everything happening “to” me. But I didn’t see there were options. No one was actually forcing me to do any of the things I was unhappy about. And every day I stayed there, I chose the same life over and over and over again.
You actually do have control, and you actually do have responsibility. You get to choose. What is the life you want for yourself?
