Where do you focus your time and attention in your relationships? Are you looking for the good, or are you looking for the bad?
Either way, you’ll find it.
Maybe he doesn’t buy you flowers, but he holds the door open for you.
Maybe he doesn’t cook, but he drops the kids off at school.
Maybe he leaves his dirty socks on the floor, but he helps bring in the groceries (and maybe only when you ask, but he does it).
Are you focusing on not having flowers, always cooking, the dirty socks, or his kindness in holding the door open, dropping the kids off, and carrying in the groceries?
You can create better experiences in your relationship by looking for the good, savoring, and then absorbing the experience into your core. Creating more positive neural pathways helps you more easily come back to the positive next time. (It’s like getting on a chairlift. The more empty chairs available, the faster you get to the summit. The more positive neural pathways available, the faster you get to the good.)
