3 Surprising Myths About Boundaries (and What They Really Mean for Your Relationships)

When we hear the word “boundaries,” it’s common to think of drawing a line, creating distance, or saying “no.” But true boundaries are so much more than limits—they’re about clarity, respect, and ultimately, connection. And yet, there are still many myths that keep people from setting healthy boundaries in their lives. Let’s clear up a few:

Myth #1: Boundaries Push People Away  

One of the biggest misunderstandings around boundaries is that they’re meant to keep people at arm’s length. But boundaries aren’t about building walls; they’re about setting guidelines that let others know where you stand. Clear boundaries allow you to show up authentically, which actually brings you *closer* to others by promoting trust and mutual respect.

Myth #2: Boundaries Are Rigid and Unchangeable  

Setting a boundary isn’t about locking yourself into one rule for life. Boundaries can evolve as you grow and as your relationships shift. The key is to set boundaries that feel right for *you* and adjust as needed. Think of them as guidelines rather than unbreakable rules.

Myth #3: Only Big Problems Require Boundaries  

Many people think boundaries are only necessary when there’s a major issue. But boundaries are powerful in our everyday interactions, too. They help us protect our time, energy, and well-being, whether it’s committing to 15 minutes of downtime or setting limits on work-related messages after hours. Even small boundaries can have a big impact on our mental and emotional health.

Ready to Start Setting Boundaries that Work?

Join me for my All About Boundaries Masterclass tomorrow at 11 AM MT via Zoom. We’ll break down the steps to create boundaries that feel true to you and explore how to honor them even when it’s tough. Can’t make it live? No worries—replays will be sent out to everyone who registers. [Link to register]

It’s time to leave the myths behind and start setting boundaries that help you thrive.

I look forward to seeing you there!


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